If you are hiring someone to come into your home to do work for you, I would strongly urge you to ask for the individuals full name and do a quick search on the sex offender registry.
You may be surprised who you might be letting into your home. Being self employed is a way for sex offenders to fly under the radar and puts the responsibility on you to know who you are hiring. Before letting someone into your home for a remodel job, google them. Don't assume anything. After you do this a few times it won't be so awkward.
I would recommend that businesses do this as well. As a for-instance, if you are hiring someone to help your office with some IT work, run the specific name of the individual scheduled to help you on the job. Be proactive!
You could also check to see if the person has pending cases in your area.
For pending cases in Piece County, Washington click this link.
Tuesday, August 30, 2011
Monday, August 29, 2011
I Just Can't Make This Stuff Up
I answered every question on the interrogatories which are basically discovery questions that are asked in lawsuits. I gave detailed information including handing over numerous private e-mails along with other documentation. I never once used the 5th Amendment to cop out of answering a difficult question. I want all to be known...even if it means, by some chance, I have done something wrong (which I do not believe I have) other than use some strong profanity at times. I thought long and hard about conversations and included what I could recall. I didn't even consider pleading the 5th amendment.
I just can't make this stuff up!
I just can't make this stuff up!
Thursday, July 14, 2011
Handle It Within The Family
In particular it seems people want to excuse away deviant sexual behavior if it's committed by a teenager. Reflecting on my personal story because it's what I lived, Patrick, disclosed that he started his sexual deviant behavior at age 15. Six children are known to have suffered sexual abuse at his hands.
A common thread I hear a lot that is alarming to me: "The offender was very repentant and is a really good person, they just made a mistake," "The parents of the offender were devastated and will appropriately handle the offense," "I don't want the offender to get in serious trouble."
The latter statement is what concerns me the most. The statement in and of itself belittles the deviant sexual act that the victim endured! This is a mindset that I am fighting against. If you get anything at all from my blog, please get that WE NEED SEXUAL PREDATORS ON OUR RADAR! It is in darkness (handling it privately) that these individuals thrive. A true sexual predator is good at what they do. They learn to manipulate people around them.
How many people will this person sexually offend before someone finally notifies the proper authorities? YOUR decision to handle these types of crimes "privately" puts others at risk! It puts MY children at risk! Are you sure you heard God tell you NOT to report the crime? And I will go as far to say that the parents of sed offender should not be considered a proper person in authority. A teacher, maybe. What about the police department?
A common thread I hear a lot that is alarming to me: "The offender was very repentant and is a really good person, they just made a mistake," "The parents of the offender were devastated and will appropriately handle the offense," "I don't want the offender to get in serious trouble."
The latter statement is what concerns me the most. The statement in and of itself belittles the deviant sexual act that the victim endured! This is a mindset that I am fighting against. If you get anything at all from my blog, please get that WE NEED SEXUAL PREDATORS ON OUR RADAR! It is in darkness (handling it privately) that these individuals thrive. A true sexual predator is good at what they do. They learn to manipulate people around them.
How many people will this person sexually offend before someone finally notifies the proper authorities? YOUR decision to handle these types of crimes "privately" puts others at risk! It puts MY children at risk! Are you sure you heard God tell you NOT to report the crime? And I will go as far to say that the parents of sed offender should not be considered a proper person in authority. A teacher, maybe. What about the police department?
Wednesday, July 13, 2011
The God Card
It's tricky when someone pulls the God card. Meaning, they feel that their decision not to report deviant sexual behavior was cleared or even directed by God. Not quite sure how to respond to that one. How do you question someones ability to hear God correctly?
But really...do you hear yourself, is what I want to say.
It's very hard for me to stay composed while hearing something like that being said. I want to immediately say...but, but, BUT!
In my story...
The "good christian parents" of Patrick, prayerfully dealt with him. Patrick, by all accounts showed the appropriate physical emotions of regret. I am told Patrick even cried and appeared extremely remorseful in a church meeting. Kathy apologized to me personally with such sadness for the fact that "it was her son" that abused my child. All the while keeping secret about other victims and details of criminal behavior.
Our system is flawed, for sure. But at least if you report "inappropriate" sexual behavior, it can be evaluated by an unbiased professional and the person can properly be charged if necessary. In order to stop the cycle of abuse we need these individuals on societies radar!
The main reason it took Eric and I about 24 hours to report the crimes committed in our case was our personal relationship with the offender. It was so confusing to reconcile the severity of the crimes committed with the person we thought Patrick to be. Once I involved someone on the outside and they heard the facts, as we knew them to be at the time, we were immediately, without hesitation encouraged to report the information to the sheriff department.
When face to face with sexual deviant behavior instead of deciding yourself, through prayer alone, if the behavior is report worthy, why not pick up the phone and call your local sexual assault center anonymously and explain the circumstances and heed their advice to report the crime or not.
But really...do you hear yourself, is what I want to say.
It's very hard for me to stay composed while hearing something like that being said. I want to immediately say...but, but, BUT!
In my story...
The "good christian parents" of Patrick, prayerfully dealt with him. Patrick, by all accounts showed the appropriate physical emotions of regret. I am told Patrick even cried and appeared extremely remorseful in a church meeting. Kathy apologized to me personally with such sadness for the fact that "it was her son" that abused my child. All the while keeping secret about other victims and details of criminal behavior.
Our system is flawed, for sure. But at least if you report "inappropriate" sexual behavior, it can be evaluated by an unbiased professional and the person can properly be charged if necessary. In order to stop the cycle of abuse we need these individuals on societies radar!
The main reason it took Eric and I about 24 hours to report the crimes committed in our case was our personal relationship with the offender. It was so confusing to reconcile the severity of the crimes committed with the person we thought Patrick to be. Once I involved someone on the outside and they heard the facts, as we knew them to be at the time, we were immediately, without hesitation encouraged to report the information to the sheriff department.
When face to face with sexual deviant behavior instead of deciding yourself, through prayer alone, if the behavior is report worthy, why not pick up the phone and call your local sexual assault center anonymously and explain the circumstances and heed their advice to report the crime or not.
Monday, June 13, 2011
Baptized Into It
I am just a mom. Sometimes I am great at it and sometimes, not so much. I am just like most of you who have happened upon my blog. When I originally started this blog I had hoped that somehow, someway this blog would reach the right individuals and possibly compel them to turn in a wanted felon, Eddie Rojas. That from there the domino effect would hopefully be that some other victims of childhood sexual abuse would receive the help they need. I also hoped that others that played key roles in our story would face some legal consequences for their criminal actions.
As my story has unfolded globally due to the lawsuit and the media attention many individuals have felt comfortable sharing with me their personal stories of sexual abuse. My heart breaks a little each time that I hear of another person or family that has lived with the consequences of sexual abuse while simultaneously I am strengthened to continue to be the one that is vulnerable in the public arena.
I think this case will set a precedent. Should I be able to tell "Our Story" even if it exposes someone else's criminal actions? When the system isn't set up to protect the innocent, should "we the people" be able to warn the community when there is documented proof of potential danger? Should someone who is a known serial pedophile be able to fly under the radar? When there is a community of people that are harboring a wanted criminal shouldn't I be able to expose them as well? This case hopefully has you thinking.
A dear friend said to me recently, "You didn't choose this, you were baptized into it." She's right, our family didn't sign up to be the ones that would test Patrick's "deliverance from pedophilia." (Which he failed miserably.) Just like I don't want to choose for you. I want you to have the facts, know his mode of operation, the mindset of his supporters, then you have a choice. An educated choice.
As my story has unfolded globally due to the lawsuit and the media attention many individuals have felt comfortable sharing with me their personal stories of sexual abuse. My heart breaks a little each time that I hear of another person or family that has lived with the consequences of sexual abuse while simultaneously I am strengthened to continue to be the one that is vulnerable in the public arena.
I think this case will set a precedent. Should I be able to tell "Our Story" even if it exposes someone else's criminal actions? When the system isn't set up to protect the innocent, should "we the people" be able to warn the community when there is documented proof of potential danger? Should someone who is a known serial pedophile be able to fly under the radar? When there is a community of people that are harboring a wanted criminal shouldn't I be able to expose them as well? This case hopefully has you thinking.
A dear friend said to me recently, "You didn't choose this, you were baptized into it." She's right, our family didn't sign up to be the ones that would test Patrick's "deliverance from pedophilia." (Which he failed miserably.) Just like I don't want to choose for you. I want you to have the facts, know his mode of operation, the mindset of his supporters, then you have a choice. An educated choice.
Wednesday, June 8, 2011
Burden Lifted
A huge financial burden has been lifted. This past week another attorney, Darrell Cochran, has decided to team up with our current lawyer, Talis Abolins, they are offering their services pro-bono. Our family has an existing balance that we need to pay off and will be responsible for expenses related to the case but the main burden has been lifted. Due to this latest development, I deleted my donate button. I am just trusting if someone would like to help in a practical financial way they still will.
You may be able to imagine what a relief this is for our family. As I have stated in other posts, I have always believed this is bigger than just what happened to our family. When the initial crime was discovered there were a few individuals that would specifically pray that "Everything be brought to the light." or "That nothing be left hidden in the darkness." that "No stone be left unturned." Little did I know, at the time, what living out the reality of those prayers would look like for our family. But I am still willing...and I am so grateful that we have lawyers that are willing to fight for us and for the protection of children!
*As of June 2012 we still have an outstanding legal balance with our attorney that we are slowly paying off. Our attorney is working on the appeal process pro-bono. His fees are waved but we still have costs that have to do with our case such as filing fees, copies, couriers, etc. It really adds up.
You may be able to imagine what a relief this is for our family. As I have stated in other posts, I have always believed this is bigger than just what happened to our family. When the initial crime was discovered there were a few individuals that would specifically pray that "Everything be brought to the light." or "That nothing be left hidden in the darkness." that "No stone be left unturned." Little did I know, at the time, what living out the reality of those prayers would look like for our family. But I am still willing...and I am so grateful that we have lawyers that are willing to fight for us and for the protection of children!
*As of June 2012 we still have an outstanding legal balance with our attorney that we are slowly paying off. Our attorney is working on the appeal process pro-bono. His fees are waved but we still have costs that have to do with our case such as filing fees, copies, couriers, etc. It really adds up.
Sunday, May 29, 2011
Conviction
Conviction
a : a strong persuasion or belief
b : the state of being convinced
Obsession
: a persistent disturbing preoccupation with an often unreasonable idea or feeling; broadly : compelling motivation
Because this is costing my family so much, maybe, you just might consider, for one moment, that what I suggest is true. In open court I look forward to presenting proof for my statements on the blog. The story is outrageous, I know, I have been living it. The Rojas family needed to be exposed in order to stop yet another victimization! Just because there is only one conviction doesn't mean there shouldn't be more. Maybe, there will be now.
Please filter through all of the details and consider what it is that I am saying...
*Be aware of a level two sex offender, Patrick David Rojas.
*Be aware of the mindset of the individuals that protected him by keeping his sexual deviant crimes secret, even after multiple offenses, and ask yourself why. Look a little closer.
*Report the location of Eddie Rojas.
*Who is advocating for the other 5 known victims?
*Be aware of the twisted biblical mindset of this particular group of people.
*How damaging childhood sexual abuse is to a child, a family, a community...the ripple effects are endless.
*Always report suspected childhood sexual abuse!
WAKE UP AMERICA! LOOK AT THIS EPIDEMIC, IT'S PREVENTABLE!
I believe is has taken my personal story with all the sorted details to finally open the eyes of some individuals. The families that are fellowshipping with the Rojases are in harms way. These families wouldn't even consider what I am suggesting without giving them details that may ring true to what they themselves are experiencing. The communities that this family is comfortable operating in are very conservative Christians ones, which also makes them very vulnerable when someone such as Eddie is a master at manipulating the word of God to control people.
Knowledge of our story I believe will also start stirring individuals all across America and abroad and hopefully each one that is touched by our story will send an e-mail to their Representatives demanding tougher laws for sexual crimes and better protection for the victims of sexual abuse, especially minor children.
And I hope that I have encouraged other survivors of a sexual crime to speak-up and tell their story. It's time to break our silence even if it costs us. The criminals have power if we stay silent!
"The wise man in the storm prays God, not for safety from danger, but for deliverance from fear."~Ralph Waldo Emerson
a : a strong persuasion or belief
b : the state of being convinced
Obsession
: a persistent disturbing preoccupation with an often unreasonable idea or feeling; broadly : compelling motivation
Because this is costing my family so much, maybe, you just might consider, for one moment, that what I suggest is true. In open court I look forward to presenting proof for my statements on the blog. The story is outrageous, I know, I have been living it. The Rojas family needed to be exposed in order to stop yet another victimization! Just because there is only one conviction doesn't mean there shouldn't be more. Maybe, there will be now.
Please filter through all of the details and consider what it is that I am saying...
*Be aware of a level two sex offender, Patrick David Rojas.
*Be aware of the mindset of the individuals that protected him by keeping his sexual deviant crimes secret, even after multiple offenses, and ask yourself why. Look a little closer.
*Report the location of Eddie Rojas.
*Who is advocating for the other 5 known victims?
*Be aware of the twisted biblical mindset of this particular group of people.
*How damaging childhood sexual abuse is to a child, a family, a community...the ripple effects are endless.
*Always report suspected childhood sexual abuse!
WAKE UP AMERICA! LOOK AT THIS EPIDEMIC, IT'S PREVENTABLE!
I believe is has taken my personal story with all the sorted details to finally open the eyes of some individuals. The families that are fellowshipping with the Rojases are in harms way. These families wouldn't even consider what I am suggesting without giving them details that may ring true to what they themselves are experiencing. The communities that this family is comfortable operating in are very conservative Christians ones, which also makes them very vulnerable when someone such as Eddie is a master at manipulating the word of God to control people.
Knowledge of our story I believe will also start stirring individuals all across America and abroad and hopefully each one that is touched by our story will send an e-mail to their Representatives demanding tougher laws for sexual crimes and better protection for the victims of sexual abuse, especially minor children.
And I hope that I have encouraged other survivors of a sexual crime to speak-up and tell their story. It's time to break our silence even if it costs us. The criminals have power if we stay silent!
"The wise man in the storm prays God, not for safety from danger, but for deliverance from fear."~Ralph Waldo Emerson
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