Pedophiles Job

You may wonder how we missed that our child was being groomed and had been sexually molested. A pedophile grooms the entire family and gains trust of everyone around the targeted child. It's almost ALWAYS someone the family knows and loves.

"People who are predators are really good at seducing children. This is their job. This is what they do. If they do it well, you are seduced before you know it. You don't know that it's seduction, that's the whole point..." ~from a TV special~

A church is ideal grounds to groom families. Our church was set-up to be very family oriented. Most of the families home schooled and integrating all ages is the norm. Pedophiles are typically patient and watch for vulnerabilities in the targeted family.

Our family was particularly vulnerable. Just in a years time prior to Patrick's crimes against our child, there was cancer in our immediate family, we had a new born, and moved twice.

The Rojas family was always there to help us. Patrick started tutoring one of our children and taking him on as a "little brother in Christ" type mentoring. This is every parents dream. A seemly Godly young man taking time out of his life to encourage another whom is younger. Our family welcomed the involvement. This is how Patrick gained access to the victim child.

Anything that might of normally been a "red flag" was easily explained away because of how "Godly, caring, and humble," the Rojas family was. I did have some "gut" feelings but didn't pay attention and act on them. I thought my "paranoia" was born out of my own life experiences. I will never ignore my gut again.Our children were not able to go on sleep overs (with rare exceptions) for the simple fact we didn't want them vulnerable to sexual abuse. Our kids were almost always supervised around other children for the same reason. Because of my background I am always suspicious of others.

There were a few times we knew Patrick left our child a note that read "Smile Jesus loves you" (with a smiley face) and would leave a few pieces of candy. I would tell myself, "How thoughtful, Patrick knew that this child would feel left out because they weren't going and doing x,y or z like their sibling was." Perfectly logical, he's from a family with 13 siblings who are taught to think of others. He also didn't just single out the victim, he would mix it up and sometimes give treats to all the kids. Patrick was always the "thoughtful guy."

Does too good to be true come to your mind? 

Let's not forget that he had help from his parents, Eddie and Kathy Rojas along with Jairus, all of whom had knowledge of Patrick's pedophilia behaviors long before we reported the crimes against our family.

*Parts are from the original "Questions" post.

I Was In, All The Way, Almost

Why didn't I reconize how bad this was while I was in it? I remember raising my eyebrow and discussing it with a few others and questioning how strange it was... to chastise your adult child. To basically require your older girls to discipline and raise your younger children...one reason I stopped at six kids was because I didn't think I could personally handle raising more and didn't want to burn-out my older children before they ever had a chance to live their own lives. But when it is all being sold under "selflessness" and "God only gives you what you can handle" "God is soverign" "Just trust God to provide" ....

I wanted to glorify God...I wanted to raise my children in a Christ-centered home (I was insecure because I came from virtually the opposite type of upbringing.)

I saw this group that appeared to be very Christ-like...selfless, serving, devoted. They seemed to practice what they preached (although, I had been around Christians for years it seemed there were so many that didn't actually live out basic biblical precepts, as I interpret them) and here was this group that seemed to live them out and their children were respectful, kind, loving, and seemed very happy. Who wouldn't be attracted to that? I desired a "happy" family that glorified God. I was in, all the way, almost.

Then this happened.

I couldn't do what I knew the elders and Eddie and Kathy wanted me to do even if it meant I was "ungodly." Because in their eyes my actions were not biblical. The pressure was overwhelming, coupled with the devastation of what we believed to have happened to our child.

As time went on the revelations grew worse. We became aware of other adult family members that could have warned us of Patrick's propensity to sexually abuse adolesent children, we learned of additional victims, betrayl upon betrayl.

Then, I started this blog.

How could my blog possibly be biblical? (I say that very sarcastically.)
It's gossip, you know. It's written by a women, "Who is easially deceived." I can hear "them" saying..."Patrick is only biblically required to confess his sins (crimes) to his "elders" and as long as he repents and follows their guidence there would be no biblical reason to keep him from the fellowship of believers." "And TRUE forgiveness means full reconciliation."

You wouldn't dare talk about the possibility of re-offending...and if he were to re-offend, Patrick would need to again, confess and repent, and so the cycle goes. IT IS SO SICK and SO WRONG!

Why do some parents tolerate this?

Connect The Dots

It seems there are many individuals that know about sexual deviant acts committed by one or more Rojas family memebers over the years but no one has put it all together. For some reason I was the first to report a crime committed by Patrick, even though he had seven years of previous sexual deviant behavior and lying. I was the first to shine a spotlight publically on this family. It's hard for me to imagine so many others have kept quiet.

Why? Why are you keeping quiet?

It's NOT un-godly to expose sin of this magnitude publically! Especially since the Rojas family have a history of moving around so much. And let's not forget that Eddie Rojas is a wanted felon in the state of Washington!

It's time to connect the dots!

Self Employed

If you are hiring someone to come into your home to do work for you, I would strongly urge you to ask for the individuals full name and do a quick search on the sex offender registry.

You may be surprised who you might be letting into your home. Being self employed is a way for sex offenders to fly under the radar and puts the responsibility on you to know who you are hiring. Before letting someone into your home for a remodel job, google them. Don't assume anything. After you do this a few times it won't be so awkward.

I would recommend that businesses do this as well. As a for-instance, if you are hiring someone to help your office with some IT work, run the specific name of the individual scheduled to help you on the job. Be proactive!

You could also check to see if the person has pending cases in your area.

For pending cases in Piece County, Washington click this link.

Patrick and Jairus you chose this path.

"The offer of settlement does not compensate my clients for their losses."

The more I consider this quote from Micheal Davis on behalf of Patrick and Jairus, the more indignant I feel. I believe this is another perfect example of an occasion where it would be appropriate to swear. WTF?

This makes me so angry on behalf of my daughter. This makes me angry on behalf of all survivors of childhood sexual abuse.

The sexual predator, Patrick David Rojas, who abused my child is claiming we have caused him losses. Proof that he is incapable of comprehending the long term consequences of his heinous crimes against my children. The child he abused, the child he used to gain access, the other children that lost their community and parents as they once were. What about compensation for what our family has lost? Not just what we can legal claim as loss but EVERYTHING Patrick, Jairus, Eddie and others took from our family. Patrick chose to victimize. Our mistake was choosing to trust him.

Patrick and Jairus you chose this path.

Jairus, When you chose to stay silent you caused your own destruction.

Dear Supporters of the Rojas Family

"Cautious, careful people, always casting about to preserve their reputation and social standing, never can bring about a reform. Those who are really in earnest must be willing to be anything or nothing in the world's estimation, and publicly and privately, in season and out, avow their sympathy with despised and persecuted ideas and their advocates, and bear the consequences." ~ Susan B. Anthony


Dear Supporters of the Rojas family,

I don't REALLY care what you think about me or what you consider my motives to be for having this blog. I care that people are informed. I care that the TRUTH be known, in general and about a specific family and individual. What you do with that information is your choice.

Sincerely,
Danielle

Toronto, Ontario

The following comment was left on this post:Discovery
July 29, 2010 12:57 AM

Anonymous said...

Wait a second, he kissed your child(which I do agree is very horrible) and you call it sexual abuse? A man kisses a child and you called him a pedophile? Is that all he did? From how you have raged in other posts I thought it would had been something way more horrible than kisses.
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First of all,if you REALLY believed in what your are posting,you would sign your name to your comment. It shows on my site tracker that this comment was made from Toronto,Ontario. You know who I am. I am not hiding. Why are you?

Secondly,this is exactly why I have this blog...to expose this kind of thinking.

Patrick is without a doubt a pedophile! He should forever avoid contact with minor children!

Finally, I would like to make clear that yes, an adult man of 22yrs old who creeps into an adolescents bedroom at night(when the child is sleeping) multiple times, to do ANYTHING at all, "just a kiss" or more is a PEDOPHILE! And in our case Patrick did more! This is where my rage comes in. My child was asleep, in their own bed, in the safety of their own home and was violated.

Since the reader obviously missed some key parts of the blog I will refresh your memory. In Patrick's evaluation, which is primarily in his own words, he talks in great detail about the sexual abuse he committed against six little girls. Their ages ranging from 11yrs old down to a 1.5yr old. He also talks about sexual acts with a dog, voyeurism, and incest with a consenting adult sister.Patrick is most certainly a sexual predator!

Stay Silent

(cont. thoughts on the MLK, Jr. Quote)

Not only did these "good people" stay silent but they intimidated others--with the word of God--to stay silent. The church congregation was told that the matter at hand was between the Schneider and the Rojas families. That any individual discussing the matter was in sin for gossip. The only appropriate avenue of conversation was with your husband/dad or the elders. Not even mother to child or child to child should utter a word about what was happening. Madness! What is even crazier, is that so many intelligent individuals attending our church followed this manipulation.

The fact that Jim and Dave knew damning information that could have helped the authorities in their investigation into the crimes committed against our child but chose to keep silent is devastating to say the least! But what is more overwhelming to process and comprehend is the fact that our former pastor Eddie Rojas, his wife, Kathy, and eldest son Jairus Rojas knew that Patrick was a pedophile and had the potential to harm our child and forever alter our child's life but chose to stay silent. They had a choice. They chose silence. Unfathomable!

Now--Patrick and Jairus want ME to be SILENT...NOT A CHANCE, as long as I have a choice!!

The Good People

“We will have to repent in this generation not merely for the vitriolic words and actions of the bad people, but for the appalling silence of the good people.” Martin Luther King, Jr.

The "good people" that stayed silent in our story; Eddie and Kathy Rojas, Jairus Rojas, Jim Cameron, and Dave Barrueto.

Jairus's Actions

The more I think about Jairus's actions specifically the more dumbfounded I am. What scripture could Jairus possibly quote to justify keeping the family's dirty little secrets and putting innocent adolescent children in danger?

I haven't written much about the anonymous comment that I received regarding Jairus in the post "Anonymous". Because it was anonymous I wasn't able to verify the information in it about Jairus. But the more I think about how Jairus has supported Patrick over the years, the more I wonder if Jairus supports Patrick because Jairus can relate to Patrick and his unnatural sexual desire for children. It causes me to wonder if maybe by supporting Patrick, Jairus is also protecting his very own dirty little secret.

Child or not, sibling or not, I couldn't and wouldn't be willing to keep silent about such things. I wouldn't be willing to keep such a secret as the one Jairus was silent about especially if I saw with my own eyes the predator in action. Patrick was clearly making a move on his prey,our child. Jairus not only watched his predatory brother systematically groom our family but Jairus aided in the process.

Jairus's Culpability

Now that I am being sued by not only Patrick but his brother Jairus I figured I should share in more detail about Jairus's culpability in the abuse of my child.

To refresh your memory Jairus is the second oldest of the Rojas children. During the entire time we knew the Rojas family Jairus was an adult. Jairus himself admitted to me in a phone conversation that he knew of Patrick's previous pedophilia behavior.Jairus obviously never reported his brothers crimes to the police.

Jairus did nothing to warn my husband or myself of Patrick's potential danger to our children. Not a hint. Nothing! Jairus was very aware of how much time Patrick was spending with our family. Sometimes Jairus would even be with Patrick at our home. As a for instance Jairus and Patrick came over to my home on Jairus's 25th Birthday to do a project to "bless and serve me." Patrick purposed the idea and Jairus agreed to do the work. Other times the two of them might come over for one reason or the other and might end up eating lunch or dinner with us. Jairus was part of building the trust between ourselves and Patrick.

I squirm to this day knowing that all that time Jairus knew what Patrick was capable of but supported the facade that Patrick was to be trusted by our family. How could Jairus do that? Jairus never once pulled Eric aside to warn him. Never once suggested in front of us that Patrick shouldn't be so involved with our family. Not one word of warning!

Then when we reported Patrick, Jairus stood by his brothers side and continued to be silent. Jairus never helped the authorities in their investigation into the crimes committed against our child. Jairus still supports his brother to this day as evident in the joint lawsuit against Eric and I. The two live together. They have worked side by side. Jairus gave Patrick a portion of the 10,000 dollars needed to retain the lawyer Patrick used to defend himself against the charges in the case involving our child. For a time Jairus was an official chaperon for Patrick. I never understood that one. I highly doubt Jairus would have turned Patrick in for a parole violation based on his attitude and past behaviors. As I understand it now Jairus supports the facade that Patrick is a changed man and should be trusted.

Court Date

The court date for the lawsuit is set for June 2011. It will be interesting to see how this unfolds in the meantime. Eric and I are open to mediation to consider exactly what information Patrick and Jairus want removed from my blog but we are also prepared to fight this lawsuit. One stipulation to our mediation agreement is that under no circumstance do I want any face to face interaction with either Patrick or Jairus!

I am so glad I have kept detailed records of conversations and who said what and when they said it. We are in this for the long hall because we believe having this information public can assist in keeping the public from harm's way. It's that important. If only someone, like Jairus or Eddie, would have warned us of Patrick's pedophilia behaviors we most certainly wouldn't be where we are today! That I am sure of!

Justice

Justice is the concept of moral rightness based on ethics, rationality, law, natural law, religion, fairness, or equity, along with the punishment of the breach of said ethics.

Because justice has yet to be served from my point of view, I continue to post on this blog. I couldn't live with myself knowing the danger that Patrick poses towards other minor children if I were quiet about it. If I didn't do everything in my power to warn and educate others about who Patrick is, what he looks like, and his level 2 sex offender status I would feel like I was somehow culpable if Patrick sexually abuses another child. The system is set up in a way that it will take another child being sexually abused by Patrick, and then they would need to turn Patrick in, before Patrick may see some real prison time for his crimes.

Furthermore, I would like to see some sort of justice take place in regards to Eddie Rojas. Because of our family's experience I learned firsthand that it is really easy to be on the run. In cases like ours essentially law enforcement won't look for a wanted felon-the felon needs to be turned in or get pulled over for a traffic violation or something like that. It's mostly left up to chance. It seemed logical to ask the internet world to be on the lookout. Many of the actions of Eddie raise multiple red flags. There may be much more to their story that Eddie wants to hide.

I also hope that showing my reader that other people were culpable in the abuse of my child that there is value in speaking up when something isn't right. Speaking out may save an innocent child. Speaking up and dealing with childhood sexual abuse will stop the cycle. Staying silent and hoping that Patrick, "Had changed and matured," as Jairus thought, without seeking professional help or involving the authorities was really leading the naive and innocent to slaughter.

Plaintiffs

I am not sure how I missed it the day I was served but I did. Patrick isn't the only one that is suing us.

Jairus Rojas and Patrick Rojas are the Plaintiffs that have filed a law suit against us for defamation, defamation by implication,and invasion of privacy. They are claiming that my blog has caused "loss of employment and that they have suffered other financial and professional harm." Also, that our (Eric and I are the named Defendant's) action's have caused other individuals to publish embarrassing and private details about them on the world wide internet. Also, the information I have published implies untrue information about them,the information I have on this blog places them in a false light, is intensely embarrassing,is supposition and vengeful.

There you have it.

We hired a lawyer that we really like. Our response is in motion. As I can I will update you, the reader.

It's Official

Crack of dawn...no joke, I was served with documents from Patrick's lawyer by the sheriff department. From what I can tell I have 20 days to respond in writing.

It's official.

The lawyer made mention that he thought it was interesting that I only included one paragraph from the original letter I received from him in my last post.

What I didn't mention from his original letter, included the fact that the lawyer is suggesting we go to mediation with Patrick to clear up this matter, or that I simply remove the blog (specifically, all the embarrassing and humiliating parts about Patrick and his family) or the lawyer would suggest a lawsuit.

The lawyer also wanted to be clear by reiterating;

"This letter is not meant to minimize the terrible journey that your family and daughter have had to travel and will continue to travel as a result of Patrick's actions. I do not want in any way to minimize the effect that Patrick has had on your family. I believe that God's grace can heal all wounds no matter how deep they are.

I have a deep belief that Jesus Christ suffered the effects of all sin, sorrows, grief,and tragedy in the Garden of Gethsemane and on the Cross so that he would know how to succor us in our time of need. He will be with you and your family as you travel the path of healing. I know personally that Jesus Christ can take our burdens from us and completely heal any harm that we have suffered whether it be physical, emotional, mental,spiritual, or otherwise."

Now that you have this additional information do you like Patrick or his lawyer, Michael J. Davis (in Tacoma, WA) any better?

Print Copies

I am checking into my legal rights for maintaining this blog as is....but in preparation of the possibility that I may actually need to remove important facts from my blog I would encourage anyone interested to print off specific posts. I have added a few specific links to some posts. Remember to print off pictures of Patrick and his family so you know who they are.

Discovery

What Eddie Knew

The Elders

Jairus Rojas

Recap

Ironic

Shout out to the Rojas boys

Eddies Resume

Eddies Location

Threat of a lawsuit

Patrick suing us?


In today's mail: If I don't remove personal information about Patrick and his family by June 4, 2010, the attorney Patrick hired will advise Patrick to take us to court for violating privacy laws.

Why does Jairus care if I have a few pictures up?

Okay, here's the thing. Jairus Rojas keeps making complaints to blogger.com about some of the photographs that I have put on this blog. Why? The only picture that hasn't been taken down is the one of Patrick off of the sex offenders web site. The majority of the photos that I have posted have been of Eddie, Kathy, and Patrick Rojas. Most recently the picture of Eddie Rojas taken from his Facebook profile page was removed. Even though the pictures have been removed from my blog, I do have a link available (top right hand side) that will allow you to view Eddie Rojas with his entire family.

Jairus may be in Port Orchard, Washington palling around with his sexual deviant, unrepentant brother, Patrick, but he is working hard to help his father, Eddie, stay under the radar as well. Remember that there is a felony warrant out for Eddie's arrest. Do Jairus and Patrick send Eddie money to help support the family while they are in hiding? Why does Jairus care if I have a few pictures up? Keep looking, people.

Eddie and Kathy are out there somewhere with 10 children. It's time for Eddie to be turned in. It's time for the additional victims of Patrick to start their healing process. It's time for this blog to reach the right people.

A felony warrant does not expire. I still have hope.

The Cast of Characters

The cast of characters that played villain roles extends beyond Patrick. How do I extend forgiveness to them? The obvious ones would be Eddie and Kathy Rojas. Jairus Rojas is definitely a main player in the game of deceit and accountability. Jim Cameron is in a category of his own. Let's not forget about Dave Barrueto, an elder in the church. Not to mention many in the congregation itself.

What do I do with all of this?

Breathe in...breathe out...I wish if I just spoke the words, "I forgive," all the memories, all the conversations, and all the hurt would be gone. Alas, it's all still there. It does not consume my every thought anymore, but it does continually affect me in my daily life.