Temporary Stopping Place

Have any contacts in the UK? You may want to send them the link to this blog. Why? I just want to make sure people know who and what they are supporting financially. After that, it's on them.

It seems Eddie has settled in the UK. Still has no work visa so others are supporting the family of twelve. I believe this is a temporary stopping place.

On The Move

Eddie made a move.

Eddie along with his wife Kathy and children are no longer in Israel. I don't know what prompted the move. Eddie was in Israel on a religious visa but was unable to secure a work visa. Not sure if they lost support or the visa expired.

Patrick and Jairus you chose this path.

"The offer of settlement does not compensate my clients for their losses."

The more I consider this quote from Micheal Davis on behalf of Patrick and Jairus, the more indignant I feel. I believe this is another perfect example of an occasion where it would be appropriate to swear. WTF?

This makes me so angry on behalf of my daughter. This makes me angry on behalf of all survivors of childhood sexual abuse.

The sexual predator, Patrick David Rojas, who abused my child is claiming we have caused him losses. Proof that he is incapable of comprehending the long term consequences of his heinous crimes against my children. The child he abused, the child he used to gain access, the other children that lost their community and parents as they once were. What about compensation for what our family has lost? Not just what we can legal claim as loss but EVERYTHING Patrick, Jairus, Eddie and others took from our family. Patrick chose to victimize. Our mistake was choosing to trust him.

Patrick and Jairus you chose this path.

Jairus, When you chose to stay silent you caused your own destruction.

Official Word

This afternoon our lawyer received official word that Patrick and Jairus are indeed going forward with the lawsuit. "...leaving an option open for settlement at a later date. The offer of settlement does not compensate my clients for their losses." Further more their attorney, Micheal Davis, will not grant us an extension to complete the questions that were sent for me to fill out. I am not being dramatic when I say this will be no small task to complete.

"The offer of settlement does not compensate my clients for their losses."

REALLY?

Yes, you read that correctly. Just say, narcissistic. That explains all of Patrick's actions.

Great, now I will have to supply in writing how I came to that conclusion. I hope I can just put - see: sexual psycho evaluation - maybe I will have to reference the page number and paragraph as well.

Their Hearts....

Prior to Thanksgiving Eric and I offered to shut the entire blog down if Patrick and Jairus would walk away from their lawsuit. I don't think I need to tell you how hard this would be for me to do.

We still haven't received a direct answer one way or the other but their lawyer has since sent a series of questions and requests that I have to answer and supply. They are requesting all and I mean all documents, e-mails, texts, diaries, memoirs since January of 2007 that pertain in anyway to the blog or Patrick and Jairus. It seems they are going forward with the lawsuit.

I believe this shows their hearts in this matter. I am no longer worried about the money needed to pay for our lawyer. I have faith that it will be supplied.

Showing My Hand

It's time to show my hand...

I have to fill out "interrogatories from the opposing party." I have to hand over all communications in regard to Patrick and Jairus, since January of 2007. I have 21 days to complete all the questions that were submitted by their attorney and gather documents. This is all the process of "discovery."

Looks like we are going forward.

Nothing New

There really is nothing new to post. I am waiting to hear back from our lawyer.

I have noticed,on my site tracker, an increase on various search engines for "Eddie Rojas." Which have landed the person on my blog.Wonder what's up.

I will update the blog when I have something new on the legal process or something informative that I can share.

Postponed Again

Another postponement by Patrick's lawyer due to personal reasons. His lawyer is suggesting new dates in December. That's all I've got.

All Is Quiet

My spirit is quiet. The lawyers are quiet. I hope this isn't the calm before the storm, so to speak.

I am slightly anxious for the next step. My deposition is a little over a week away. Patrick's is the following day. I need to take care of the practical things involved like covering childcare and transportation for my various children's needs.

I know that powers and principalities are at work.

Please Explain

Knowing that Eddie Rojas needs to be supported by outside parties I often wonder who would give finances to aid and abed a wanted felon. I am not talking about someone who is homeschooling in a state that is against homeschoolers and trying to take his children. Nor am I talking about someone who is being persecuted for spreading the gospel or passing out bibles. But I am talking about a man who abused his authority as a spiritual leader.

Eddie Rojas knew his son, Patrick Rojas, was a sexual predator. Eddie had "caught" him twice at age 15-17 years old sexually abusing (from the evaluation, I assume his own sisters.)Yet Eddie lead others to believe his son, Patrick, was trust worthy and in particular around adolescents. Eddie allowed mentoring relationships between Patrick and children. Mind you, at this time Patrick was an adult but still completely under his fathers roof and control. Patrick was not able to do or go anywhere without Eddie's permission. Eddie knew that Patrick was very much involved with our family and interacting with our children. Eddie, my spiritual authority at the time not only encouraged our family but our church congregation to trust Patrick.

Then when the light invaded the darkness of what was happening within the walls of the Rojas family home, Eddie ran. I know that Eddie and Kathy claim to be martyrs. It is just not true. I have explained in previous posts that the state was not interested in breaking up the Rojas family. But they were very much interested in exposing just how dangerous Patrick was and holding him legally accountable and the state would have suggested some kind of support be given to the girls in the family that were his victims.

I know that when you meet Eddie he appears to be so humble and such a God fearing man. It could be easy to fall prey to his manipulation of the truth. His involvement in the crimes and betrayal committed against our child and family should not be supported by anyone, least of all, brothers and sisters in Christ. Withdrawal your support and force Eddie to return to the states to face his actions.

Otherwise, can you please explain to me why you would continue in financially supporting such a man.

How Far Should Forgiveness Go

"Condemnation is not the heart of forgiveness. It's the indispensable presupposition of it."~Miroslav Volf, Yale theologian

"Forgiveness that does not take seriously the offense against an injured party is fraudulent and cheap."~Chrisine A. Scheller, Journalist

To read the entire article that a friend sent me, click on the link below.

How Far Should Forgiveness Go?

Not Your Way

Maybe this would not be the way you would deal with crimes such as these committed against someone in your family. But it has been the way I have chosen to communicate this part of my families story. Just because it's not your way....doesn't mean it's the wrong way.

From my view, it has been my responsibility to educate and warn others, since the system failed and individuals in authority were staying silent.

I have gone outside of myself in hopes that something redeeming might come out of my families nightmare.

I could have shut down and pretended none of this happened. Pretend that all was good with our family and been living a lie. Perpetuating the damage. Sabotaging our families healing process. I could have ignored the fact that other children would be in danger, not just in general, but by someone I knew. That would have been wrong for me to do. It's just not me. But I do believe God is the ultimate judge and will without doubt bring about justice for anything not accomplished here on earth.

Punishment doesn't cure the sickness

Someone that follows my blog made this statement, "Punishment doesn't cure the sickness."

From what I have learned it is my belief that someone that is diagnosed as a pedophile or has a history of victimizing children will always and forever be a danger to children. Now it is possible for someone that is honest about their unnatural dangerous behavior to stop victimizing children but and I emphasis the but that person must take all precautions to avoid the temptation to act upon their deviant desires. The most obvious precautions is to avoid contact with children.

Because Eddie Rojas was our pastor at the time Patrick sexually abused my child and the way our church handled the entire situation, God and religion is referenced regularly on this blog. It is frustrating to me that the people that support Patrick and support that Eddie is in hiding seem to be more concerned about me forgiving Patrick and ending this blog than they are about avoiding future victims and helping the girls he has already victimized. Some want to disregard the truth of what I am writing because they feel I am in sin because they interpret what I am doing as revenge and see me as angry and bitter. I am not without sin but I do not sexually molest little children and Patrick does. I am not a danger to your children and Patrick is. I am not a wanted felon and Eddie Rojas is.

I agree punishment won't cure Patrick. Just the same, repentance won't cure Patrick. I do not believe there is a "cure" for Patrick only precautions will help Patrick. Awareness of what Patrick is capable of doing is the most powerful precaution. If you know his mode of operation you can avoid victimization. If Patrick isn't living in your community you can use my story and learn from it. Look for the red flags and listen to your gut. No relationship is worth a child being sexually molested. No community is irreplaceable. God is a big God, He isn't in only one particular church congregation.

Dear Supporters of the Rojas Family

"Cautious, careful people, always casting about to preserve their reputation and social standing, never can bring about a reform. Those who are really in earnest must be willing to be anything or nothing in the world's estimation, and publicly and privately, in season and out, avow their sympathy with despised and persecuted ideas and their advocates, and bear the consequences." ~ Susan B. Anthony


Dear Supporters of the Rojas family,

I don't REALLY care what you think about me or what you consider my motives to be for having this blog. I care that people are informed. I care that the TRUTH be known, in general and about a specific family and individual. What you do with that information is your choice.

Sincerely,
Danielle

Comment

Below is a comment that I wanted to highlight that is in response to some anonymous comments I have received on the Going Forward post. Click on the link to view the post and all the other comments.

"I read this analogy this morning and have been pondering it all day. If it wasn’t so sad, it would be laughable! Do you really think that the sexual abuse of a little girl can be equated to a cut on the arm? In order to make the story somewhat comparable, the “little boy” would have to hack off the girl’s arms and legs. Maybe then, the devastation would be on par with what Patrick has done to Danielle’s daughter. And she is not constantly re-wounding her daughter by talking about the abuse. Openness and light is what brings healing—not cowering in anonymity and darkness as Patrick and his family have done!

Do I think Patrick regrets his actions towards Danielle’s daughter? Absolutely! But not because he has genuine remorse or godly conviction. I think he misjudged Danielle and her tenacity, her willingness to fight back in the face of evil intent. If he had the time back, I think he would simply choose another victim. Someone who would toe the church line of “forgive and forget.” Someone like a few of the commenters on this blog. Someone who would let their children be victims without too much of a fuss!

I think Danielle’s daughter, far from being re-victimized by her mom, is being championed by her parents, who stand by her! And not only that… are standing up for other families and children who may unwittingly come into contact with Patrick. Having all the information, at least they can choose whether they want him in their children’s lives. Danielle and her family were not given that choice.

Oh, and someone asked for the biblical basis for writing. To me, this verse sums up the whole message of her blog:

Isaiah 1:17
Say no to wrong.
Learn to do good.
Work for justice.
Help the down-and-out.
Stand up for the homeless.
Go to bat for the defenseless."

Cheryll (signing my name because I am willing to stand by my comments)

Effective Tool

*The simple fact that I am being sued by Patrick and his brother Jairus indicates that the blog is working. People are protecting themselves and their families. This has been an effective tool to warn individuals in the community about Patrick, a convicted sex offender.

*Through the blog I was able to locate the whereabouts of Eddie Rojas, a wanted felon. But because he is out of our country for now he will not be held accountable legally for his actions. I am at least reassured that the communities the Rojases are traveling within can know who they REALLY are. The Rojas family isn't able to hide under a veil of lies anymore.

*I have been able to engage in open dialog about a taboo subject. I have been heartbroken by all the women and men that have shared with me their stories of childhood sexual abuse. Their willingness to share was facilitated because of my openness on this blog.

As I have stated in other posts....this is about more than just our story.

Evaluation Request

Lately,I have been getting more requests for a copy of the evaluation on Patrick. The best way to receive the official public record of his evaluation would be to do the following:

First, download the Request for Public Records (in PDF format)from the Kitsap County Prosecuting Attorney's Office Web site by CLICKING HERE.

Next, fill in the form with the following information:
*Defendant/Suspect Name: Patrick David Rojas
*Policy Agency: leave blank
*Police Report Number: 2007SOOOO230
*Our File Number: 07-179136-1
*Court Case: 17913601
*Date of Incident: January 5, 2007 reported
----> Put a check in the Other box and write: Sexual psych evaluation & addendum by Dr. Joe Jensen Ph.D.

(Or any other document that you wish to view, such as Jim Cameron's statement made to the detective, maybe the statements made by Eddie and Kathy Rojas, or the "letters of support" boasting of Patrick's exemplary character and sincere repentance(written by Dave Barrueto or Michael Bradrick, Vice President of CHRISTIAN HERITAGE,to just name a few.)

Fill in the rest of the form with your personal information.

Now, you are ready to fax your request to the Prosecuting Attorney's Office. Be sure to put "Attn:Kelly Montgomery" at the top of each page, and fax to 1-360-337-7229.

Or, you can mail it to:
Kitsap County Prosecuting Attorney's Office
Attn: Kelly Montgomery
614 Division St., MS-35
Port Orchard, WA 98366

If you are refused a copy, you can e-mail me and I will see if I can help.

Friendly Fire

Well, I have been getting a little friendly fire lately from my own. Other Christians.

The longer I am away from the rhetoric that our former pastor, Eddie Rojas, preached at PHFCC, along with the mind set of the elders and many of the families that attended PHFCC, the clearer it becomes that their thinking is far from biblical. They may quote scripture but they distort the meaning as it pertains to someone like a known sexual predator. A sexual predator isn't someone you can just say I forgive you to and then move on as normal. Warning others as to the documented potential danger their children would be in if left unattended with someone such as Patrick isn't an act of revenge.

Some of the worst damage that has been done to me in my lifetime has come from friendly fire. I have my issues. I have baggage. I get that. This blog isn't one of them.

Right To Privacy

The moment Patrick started grooming our family, I believe he forfeited his right to privacy. The day he actually laid hands on my child, his story became intertwined in mine. I am being sued because Patrick has lost his good reputation. According to the lawsuit his loss of reputation and of employment is because of my blog. Way to shift blame.

If Patrick wouldn't have sexually violated my child along with five other minor children I wouldn't have a blog. If Patrick would have taken full responsible for his deviant crimes and accepted the legal consequences for his crimes, I would not have anything to write about. If Patrick stayed clear of children and families with children and was upfront about his predatory tendencies, I would have no need to warn the community that we live in about him specifically.

If Jairus would have warned us not to allow Patrick access to our children, I would not have this story to tell about his involvement. If Eddie and Kathy Rojas would have protected our church community and my family from their sexual deviant son, my story would be different. Because these individuals chose to stay silent, this is my story. Patrick, Jairus, Eddie and Kathy are simply reaping what they sowed. I guess they didn't consider the possibility that I wouldn't stay silent along with them.

Going Forward

They are going forward with the deposition. It looks like it will be in late November. Truth be told, I am not surprised.

At this point I have no choice but to roll with it. Don't get me wrong, this does cause me anxiety. The anticipation will be building from now until the deposition. Wondering about what questions will be asked, whether the offender and his brother will be present, not knowing whether I will feel angry or sad and cry.

It's a job for the attorneys and I believe a game for Patrick.

I just have to remind myself, for even one family to be spared the devastation that Patrick caused our child and family, it is all worth it.

Not Normal

One thing that keeps coming to mind lately is the fact that we are not dealing with someone like you or I. We are dealing with a sociopath that has narcissistic traits. He is not normal. Does not feel REAL remorse for his victims. Incapable of empathy. Although he can act and say the right words because he was taught well.

I believe that people that support a person like this view him as though he has actual remorse. So many of his actions have indicated a lack of humility on his part and a lack of empathy for his victim and their family. The one, that to me, is the mind blower even more so than the lawsuit was when he opposed the extension of the restraining order on behalf of the victim. Showing up to the court to ask for an extension because his lawyer wasn't able to make that particular date, not once but twice, by action alone indicates opposition to the no-contact order. Call me crazy.

Someone that is a serial pedophile is not normal! Does not think like you or I. Is incapable of certain emotions.

It is hard for us to comprehend because we have a conscious. We can't imagine because our brains are different. There really are monsters out there. They just don't always look scary.

Giving all my secrets away....

This has changed me. Confused me. Not sure I have really learned anything from all of this yet. I am somewhat jaded.

I still try to put myself out there but find myself retreating regularly.

I am scared sometimes and feel empowered at other times. Sure of what I am doing and why but not sure what I will have to endure because of what I have chosen to do. Feel supported by some and judged by many. I realize that unless you have walked in my shoes you rarely can really "get it" or speak to it.

I have noticed that so many people don't really want to know the truth, they just want to live an uncomplicated pleasant life. If they knew, they would be accountable for their inaction.

All the things I thought were so vitally important for a "good Christian" life...maybe aren't so much, in light of so many other issues.

I know that no one can walk out my life so I need to. I want to be able to say that I did everything I could think of (within reason) to try and protect anyone else from being victimized by Patrick Rojas.

I hope for real changes in the laws that pertain to sex offenders. I am intimidated by the process of being heard. Wonders if people will really rise up when I ask them to.

Yes, three and half years after becoming aware that one of my children was sexually abused by our family friend, our former pastors adult son, in my own home, and that others had the power to stop the victimization yet chose to stay silent, I am still emotionally and practically dealing with the repercussions of all of their choices. I have kept moving but I am not sure that I am ever suppose to put this behind me, on a shelf in my heart and close the door. That is exactly the opposite of what I believe is to be done.

Chelsea's Law

ESCONDIDO, Calif. | As the first case to be prosecuted under California's new "one-strike" sex offender law is processed, the parents of slain San Diego County teen Chelsea King are beginning to work toward passage of similar laws in Colorado, Florida, Ohio and Texas.

Chelsea's Law, named after their daughter, places greater restrictions on paroled offenders and keeps behind bars for life those who have committed violent crimes against children under age 14. It swept through the legislature in about three months during budget season this year in a rare display of fervent bipartisan support.

To read the entire article: Chelsea's Law parents spread idea for 'one-strike' sex law

Now this is a law to get behind!

Postponed

For those interested....the deposition has been temporarily postponed by Patrick and Jairus's attorney for personal reasons. Sometime between now and the end of October I should know if another deposition date is being scheduled or if they choose to forgo the deposition and head straight into mediation. Another time of waiting.

I am cautiously optimistic....I think. Maybe? Not sure! I was emotionally ready for but not looking forward to the deposition. I still believe the good out weighs the bad. I still believe awareness is the key to change. Change in the access an offender has, changing of laws, change in people's reaction to a victim of childhood sexual abuse, change in the church's response towards the offender and the victims.

Not sure what it all looks like lived out but I am compelled to shine a light on this darkness!

Lawsuit Update

Today I received notification that Eric and I will in fact be deposed (next week) by Patrick and Jairus's lawyer. Eric and I had agreed to go straight to mediation. We had even agreed to pay for half the legal cost of mediation (which our half will be in the ball park of $3,000.) After a lengthy silence, their lawyer replied with a deposition date. Indicating that they will be able to have a more meaningful mediation if some discovery is done in this matter.

My interpretation:

Michael Davis (their lawyer) wants to profit as much as possible from this situation. Why STRONGLY recommend mediation to just turn around and say a deposition is in order? Unless of course Patrick and Jairus just want to mess with us. Could their motives be malicious? Why wouldn't they want to go straight to mediation? Another example that you should watch what Patrick does not what he says.

The cost of the deposition is separate from the cost of mediation.I find it crazy, maddening, and somewhat depressing that Patrick, a convicted sex offender, is able to sue one of his victim's parents for telling their story. We will never recover the cost incurred to defend the blog's publication which, in essence, is our story.

Simplifying It

A man,11 years older, than the child.

This man,literally,sneaks into the child's bedroom,at night,where the child is tucked away in bed asleep and he....

This is not the first child this same man has violated. In fact, it's his sixth child.

This man violated the majority of his victims numerous times each.

This man has been a confessed Christian during each violation.

This man was caught and finally reported to the police after his sixth victim.

This same man hid behind an expensive attorney to avoid the full consequences of his actions.

Now,this same man claims to be repentant and a new man.

This man has people supporting his claim to be a new man.

This man would like to resume life as normal and wonders why I am not okay with that. He wonders why I won't stop telling this true story.

Simplified version.

Something To Think About

Think about it....

mixing normal behavior vs pedophile behavior

mixing forgiveness with forgetting

forgiveness does not replace wisdom

age difference alone made everything fall into pedophilia behavior
more than a five year age difference
telling her to destroy evidence
sneaking into our house
leaving gifts
quoting scripture to one while sexually abusing another
talking to her privately
knowledge of computer pass word
not to mention the countless (literally) times he entered her room
leaving letters
reading her diary

Do you know an eleven year old girl, one that not only looks innocent and sweet but actually is...now,think of a 22yr old man that you know...would you still tell me to just forget all about it and allow the individual to move on to another unsuspecting family? REALLY? Now, try and tell me that is what God wants me to do. Think about it.

Apathy of human beings....

Science may have found a cure for most evils; but it has found no remedy for the worst of them all - the apathy of human beings.
Helen Keller

Twisted Theology

It seems to me that the different outrageous comments that I have recently received were made by two or three different individuals. It is this exact mindset that perpetuates childhood sexual abuse. Their mindset almost condones it. Their mindset lived out, causes much pain and destruction. I do not care how many scriptures they quote, I will never again be swayed by their twisted theology.(Although, for a time, I must admit I was.)

I don't drink Kool-Aid anymore.

We are to apply scripture with context and by the Holy Spirit. Not use it as an excuse to avoid the hard work of facing the reality of ones sins and their real life earthly consequences. What happens in the spirit realm is separate from what needs to happen in the physical. In the spiritual realm,I am redeemed. In the physical,I am a sinner that lives daily with the struggles of my sin nature.

It's frightening to know that there are segments of "the body of Christ" that would overlook childhood sexual abuse and perpetuate more abuse.

‎"The power of accurate observation is commonly called cynicism by those who have not got it."~George Bernard Shaw

Not My Responsibility

It's as if Patrick's supporters believe all of this is on me. Like I am responsible for something. Like if I would just be silent, Patrick would be "normal." That is dangerous, ignorant thinking. Patrick should never be considered "normal." Call him repentant if you must, call him miraculously healed if you dare, call him washed white as snow but do not, not for one moment believe he isn't a constant threat to children.

Given the right circumstances, the right opportunity, the temptation to re-offend will be so strong. Will he be able to control his desires? His sin nature? No one can say with certainty,that he will.

Why would anyone on Gods' green earth knowingly put their child within the grasp of a known pedophile? Why tempt "poor Patrick?" As one of my readers put it. Trusting God does not mean we don't use our brain!

We are suppose to learn from our past, right? Eddie "caught" Patrick, Patrick repented. Eddie "caught" Patrick again, again, Patrick repented. We caught Patrick,for the third time he repented. Meanwhile, six little girls were sexually violated. Their sexual purity robed. Patrick's specific past indicates that his repentance for his sexual crimes is clearly not enough to stop him from re-offending!!

That is why this is not about forgiveness. My forgiveness will do nothing for Patrick's future victims. My forgiveness will not ensure that Patrick will not strike again. My forgiveness is between me and God. I may get there, someday...

Experience......

I thought I was done highlighting anymore of the anonymous posts but I really wanted to address a portion of one more comment that was posted on my Toronto,Ontario post.

"You have already caused him the loss of his job and many of his friends. What more do you want to do to him? Are you not satisfied? Have you not destroyed him enough? When will you allow Gods healing power to come into your life? The government isn't going to satisfy you, the destruction of Patrick won't satisfy you, only God can."

I did not make, cause, or influence Patrick to sexually molest six little girls. It is because of Patrick's own actions that he lost his job(by the way,good to know.) It is solely because of Patrick and his own actions that he has lost many friends.

Quite the contrary to what you are saying happened. My family lost it's community because of what Patrick did. My family has been emotionally devastated because of what Patrick did. To this day our family is walking a healing path because of crimes that Patrick committed. As I have said before, a tsunami was unleashed in my home,when Patrick chose our family to victimize. All kinds of people were caught up and hurt in the ripples of Patrick's selfish sick acts.Patrick is a master at what he does. He had been honing his skills for 7 years prior to the crimes against our child.Patrick destroyed his self!

I am only guilty of living out the pain that was caused by no fault of my own. Living this out doesn't feel good, nor does it look pretty.Call me whatever you want. Quote whatever scripture you'd like but I can't quite reconcile that the God I serve would want me to be silent. No, the God I serve would want me to shout out from the mountain tops when I know someone is a clear and present danger. Especially when I know their mode of operation. When I know their target.

"Experience: that most brutal of teachers. But you learn, my God do you learn."
~ C.S.Lewis

The insanity of how our church leaders handled everything, my first hand experience with being groomed and having a child sexually abused, my painful awareness that "the church" along with society do not understand the long term effects of childhood sexual abuse, going through the disappointing legal process, living out the pain of being the mother of a victim would all be for not if I couldn't share our story for people to glean from.What would be even better is if someone that is in Patrick's circle is able to protect their children because I shared our story.Because I told the whole truth!

Forgive him, fine. BUT DO NOT FORGET WHAT HE IS CAPABLE OF!!DO NOT LET YOUR GUARD DOWN!!

Deformed View

I will use different examples from people in our own story. I know now that both elders, Jim Cameron and Dave Barrueto, have faced some form of childhood sexual abuse against their own children. "We dealt with something like this with one of our children and talked to the person and straightened it out."-Jim

I know that neither of them chose to report the crimes. They practiced what they preached. They forgave the individual and returned to fellowship with them(in one of the cases the elder's family eventually moved away from Chicago where the abuse took place.) This behavior and twisted mindset is selfish and destructive.

Since the abuse of their children, how many additional children have been sexually violated by the offender that was never reported,held accountable,or monitored? That's two sex offenders not on the legal radar. Two sex offenders in "the church" un-detected because Jim and Dave belittle childhood sexual abuse. They believe that "such matters" should only be handled in the church."The only biblical requirement is to confess their sin(crime)to the church elder." "The state has no business in a church matter." This was the rhetoric of Jim and Dave.

It makes sense that our former elders would respond the way they did in our situation. Otherwise they would need to face what they had done to their own children.They needed to down play the seriousness of childhood sexual abuse and it's far reaching effects on a child in order to justify their own choice to ignore it."It was just inappropriate affection." "He was just curious." "Not worth eight years in prison." "We needed to forgive Patrick and reconcile with him." More rhetoric by the elders. They have a deformed view of the Word of God. As you can see by some of the comments lately, they are not the only ones who have a deformed view!

"No wonder Christians are hated, laughed at and ridiculed by secular culture. For the most part,they are dumb!"~Sarah Musick.

Who you should care about...

"A man with an experience is never at the mercy of a man with an argument" - C. S. Lewis.

The most recent comments that I have highlighted in my posts were for the express purpose of letting my reader see first hand, with their own eyes the type of thinking our family had dealt with in our former church. The way some individuals belittle childhood sexual abuse.It's dangerous thinking to say the least! I will not argue about the doctrine, some of which is sound. But I believe most of my readers are smart enough to know other biblical principles that would support why I am compelled to bring awareness to this subject.

The obvious reason that I highlight Patrick and the other Rojas members, who aided Patrick in his grooming process and covered up his crimes,is because it's what I have to draw from. It's my story. It's how I know what I now know.

Because I know what I know about Patrick, I also know that he is still a clear and present danger to children. As satisfying as it would be to know that Patrick was behind bars somewhere, it's not worth the reality of what that would mean.It would mean that there was another little girl sexually violated by Patrick.I can't bear the thought of that, which is the reason I want everyone that is in Patrick's life and his community to be aware of what he is capable of doing.

It has been 3yrs this August since Patrick was sentenced in the plea agreement made with the state. Pedophiles are known for their patience. They are methodical. This would be about the time frame for someone like Patrick to gain the trust back within his circle of friends and family. People get busy, they forget, they let down their guard.That is when a pedophile strikes!I could careless about Patrick one way or the other. But what I do care about are the innocent children that are within his grasp. That is who you should care about!

Another Outrageous Comment

Another outrageous comment made, July 29, 2010 1:48 AM on
Open Letter from the Grandmother

Anonymous said...

You speak with an obvious, enormous amount of hate. Why? I understand how devastated you must be, if it were my granddaughter I would be saddened beyond words. But God has called you to be like Him, in Christ, there is no room for hate among the brethren. You swear at them, you say "bull, bull, bull" but who is the bull? The one who humbly repents? Or the one who refuses to forgive, and harbors evil contempt and hatred in their heart? We humans are not called to judge each other, you say that "Eddie" is "PURE EVIL", but read your bible, do you think that Jesus would approve of his servant(you) calling a man who He has redeemed and called as His own son "PURE EVIL"? Is it right for us to call a man chosen by God, loved by God, cherished by God "PURE EVIL"? You have called a holy man EVIL, you have taken God's child, and labeled him as EVIL, you have called Christ's holiness, which shines in Eddie, "PURE EVIL". Why, oh why? My heart holds no hate towards you, for Jesus loves you, and how could I hate you, whom Jesus loves? I know that your hurt is to deep for words, but please, do not hate the Rojases, think of it this way Jesus loves them, and how can you hate they that Jesus loves? Patrick has repented, he is forgiven, Jesus has forgiven him. His sins are washed away, he is whiter than snow. Patrick is a new creation in Christ, the old is no more, the Patrick that hurt your child no longer exists. Pray that that Patrick will never return, pray for Patrick to stay pure, and holy. You cry out to the government for Justice, but who is the greatest Judge of all? Jesus is, so stop trying to revenge the Rojas family, God will judge them. Ecc. the last verse " For God will bring every deed into judgement, including every hidden thing". Remember that verse, do not worry, God will bring justice, do not look for it in the government, we all see how often they fail.

May you be strengthened in Christ, for the furthering of his Glorious kingdom. May you understand that God is in control.

Jesus loves you- and them.
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The following is a response from "The Grandmother."

Anonymous,

By anonymously commenting on my post, you show yourself to be a coward.

By your ignorant statements you show yourself to be a fool.

Bully for me!
Judy McBee

PS
You're a nasty hypocrite.The phrase,"Stupid is as stupid does" fits you perfectly in this situation. You anonymously snipe at me with judgmental platitudes and claptrap,while pontificating on the character of first a known pedophile and then a "wanted man." You got the response you earned.

This is not about forgiveness!

My blog is not about forgiveness. It's not about me or you forgiving Patrick. And I must say, even if God has forgiven Patrick-Patrick is still a threat!

This blog is to educate people in the community of the danger Patrick poses to their children. Patrick isn't going to tell you to keep your children away from him. Jairus isn't going to warn you. Because of individuals who kept secrets and remained silent, the state can't adequately warn the public of the danger Patrick poses. This blog was a way for me to warn the community that Patrick lives in, the churches he will try to attend, and the families he will befriend. If you know who he is,what he is capable of, and you still chose to fellowship with him, well, it won't be on my conscious if Patrick victimizes someone in your family.

This would be a whole different conversation if Patrick would have been forthright and honest about everything. Even then, Patrick would still be a potential danger to other little girls but I wouldn't feel compelled to warn the community. But hiding information and people, lying, going places and being around children(when legally you were not suppose to),contesting a no-contact-order(that the victim wanted to feel safe), suing one of your victims families are all actions that are contrary to the actions of someone who is repentant! Dressing up in a suit and going to church, crying, uttering the words, "forgive me" do not equal repentance!

Toronto, Ontario

The following comment was left on this post:Discovery
July 29, 2010 12:57 AM

Anonymous said...

Wait a second, he kissed your child(which I do agree is very horrible) and you call it sexual abuse? A man kisses a child and you called him a pedophile? Is that all he did? From how you have raged in other posts I thought it would had been something way more horrible than kisses.
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First of all,if you REALLY believed in what your are posting,you would sign your name to your comment. It shows on my site tracker that this comment was made from Toronto,Ontario. You know who I am. I am not hiding. Why are you?

Secondly,this is exactly why I have this blog...to expose this kind of thinking.

Patrick is without a doubt a pedophile! He should forever avoid contact with minor children!

Finally, I would like to make clear that yes, an adult man of 22yrs old who creeps into an adolescents bedroom at night(when the child is sleeping) multiple times, to do ANYTHING at all, "just a kiss" or more is a PEDOPHILE! And in our case Patrick did more! This is where my rage comes in. My child was asleep, in their own bed, in the safety of their own home and was violated.

Since the reader obviously missed some key parts of the blog I will refresh your memory. In Patrick's evaluation, which is primarily in his own words, he talks in great detail about the sexual abuse he committed against six little girls. Their ages ranging from 11yrs old down to a 1.5yr old. He also talks about sexual acts with a dog, voyeurism, and incest with a consenting adult sister.Patrick is most certainly a sexual predator!

A humble servant of Him who loves you.

Anonymous said...

Hey, just wanted to say that I feel really sorry for you. I have been a friend of the Rojas family ever since I was born, when I read this I could not believe that patrick had done this. I still love the Rojas family from the bottom of my heart. I will be praying for your comfort, and that Jesus will open your eyes to forgive Patrick. Remember- pray for Patrick, in God's word it says to pray for your enemys, if you consider him your enemy, pray for him. If you consider him a fellow sinner, pray for him. He needs your prayers, he really does. We have all sinned and fallen short of the glory of God, you are a sinner and so is he. The hurt is deep, I know, I know. But who did God come for, the "good" people? No, Jesus came for the broken, the beggars, the prostitutes, the tax colectors. Do not judge patrick for his sins, we are not the judge CHRIST is the holy judge. He will bring justice. Patrick is already forgiven, he repented, and Jesus has washed him whiter than snow, he is a new creation. The old is gone and the new is here. Remember that, remember that Jesus forgave Patrick, so like Jesus, you must also forgive him. It is very far that patrick has fallen, very evil the things he has done, but he is forgiven, God is saving him.

May God continue to bless you, to pour out his blessings upon you. May he open your hearts to the true righteosness of the rojas family. They are whiter than snow by God's washing them.

-A humble servant of Him who loves you.
July 28, 2010 2:37 PM said...

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As you can see I just received the above comment. Anonymous made this comment on my "What Eddie Knew" post. So many things run through my mind...it sounds so familiar...truth with a twist. I want to reply, Yes, but....

I can't get worked up and try to justify myself to these individuals. So,I remind myself that God is my judge, I believe He will say, "Well done."

It is interesting to me how the supporters of Patrick and the Rojas family focus so much of their concern on my need to forgive them. I do believe that Patrick is a wolf in sheep clothing, an impostor, a dangerous sexual predator! I believe that the actions of Eddie and Kathy raise many red flags. I believe I have a moral and spiritual obligation to tell our story so individuals around Patrick are aware of his danger to children and I also wanted Eddie to be located in hopes of the girls getting the professional help that they need along with Eddie being held legally accountable for his actions. Telling our story and bringing awareness to this subject matter is bigger than Patrick, bigger than the other Rojas family members, bigger than my need to forgive Patrick!

Only God knows what is in a man's heart...so, all I have to go by is their actions. I see a lot of secrets, darkness, and evil in the Rojas's actions. I see pain and destruction as their legacy. I do not see repentance.

Stop the silence!

What can tear away at family values, purity,innocence,community more than a pedophile or the people that keep their secrets? Will you speak out on this subject? Will you take a stand even if it costs you financially or socially? It is going to take way more than my blog to make a difference in the area of childhood sexual abuse. I know drug addiction and alcoholism are also very devastating to families and community but I strongly suspect that sexual abuse is what drives many, many individuals to seek relief from their internal struggle from their abuse by turning to drugs or alcohol.

I know that there will always be pedophiles on this earth but I do believe we can drastically reduce their access to children. The easiest way is to stop being silent! Inform others of known predators in your area. Write your elected leaders asking them to make stricter guidelines for released predators, longer jail sentences for sexual predators, mandatory sexual psycho evaluation for someone accused of a sexual crime (plea agreements only allowed after the lie-detector part of the evaluation implies the offender has been truthful.)Ask your leaders to explain why someone that abuses an animal routinely receives harsher punishments than a sexual predator.There are so many changes that need to be made in our laws that pertain to this subject!The laws won't change unless we the people demand a change.

Remember,you ALWAYS need to report suspected sexual abuse!

Why do you still attend?

I don't get why individuals still attend PHFCC in Port Orchard, WA under Dave Barrueto and Jim Cameron if they know our story. One of the elements that attract individuals to that particular congregation is the "emphasis on family." The belief is that the we, as Christians, reach the world is through a strong family unit that glorifies God.

With that in mind don't you find it ironic that the men in that congregation would continue to submit to leaders who, by their own actions, took part in damaging a family and for that matter future families. The same leaders kept quiet about information that our family needed to help our child, information the police needed, information that the church body should have had in order to protect their own families from a predator.

I have no idea exactly what the leaders currently tell new members of the church about their past history, especially if one of the new families comes across my blog. But at the time, one excuse that was routinely given was, "that they (the elders) were only men and had made mistakes." Once, I heard this with my own ears from Jim Cameron and he seemed rather irritated and arrogant at the time. I want to address this in particular. Mistakes, I get. But let me be clear these elders continued to support the Rojas family way beyond anything that could be considered a "mistake."

#1. Jim and Dave (the elders) withheld details to the crimes Patrick committed against our child from the detective. (They will say that they thought we knew, that they had no legal obligation to report, that this was a matter for the "church" not the state.) I would reply: Jim knew exactly what we knew! Maybe they had no legal obligation but what about moral? The abuse of a child is absolutely the matter of the state and a matter that the "church" should take far more seriously than it does!

#2. Jim omitted information when he gave his statement to the police. You can request a copy of Jim Cameron's statement to the detective and see for yourself. There is no mention in Jim's statement about Patrick's detailed description of the crimes committed against my child. Jim actually implies the opposite! He lied to protect a sexual predator! Dave was not interviewed, nor did he call to report the information about the crimes that Patrick committed.

#3. Jim and Dave impressed upon the church the importance of not talking about the matter between the Rojas family and Schneider family. They tried very hard to control the information that was talked about. Dave even called my mom (the victim's grandmother) and told her she was in sin, for gossip, because she had talked to Dave's mother-in-law about some of the details with what was happening. The elders also put out a letter to the congregation stating it would be a sin to talk about the matter even amongst their own family members.

#4. Jim and Dave coined the phrases, "It was only a kiss." WTF: between a 22yr old grown man and an adolescent child, "just a kiss" and just "inappropriate behavior." They both knew that much more than "just a kiss" had taken place!!

#5. Jim and Dave tried to convince Eric (my husband) that we needed to be back in fellowship with Patrick. That we needed to forgive. That true forgiveness meant our family would be in fellowship with Patrick and the Rojas family.

#6. Jim and Dave refused to request a copy of Patrick's sexual psycho evaluation before his sentencing. Stating that the matter was in the states hands. REMEMBER, they already knew the details of what Patrick had done to our child.

#7. The elders helped Eddie Rojas hide his family.

#8. After knowing all the information about Patrick's crimes in our case, additional victims, other sexual deviant behavior, that were made public in an all church Heads-of- Household meeting, the elders continued to stand along side Patrick and support his silence about his additional victims.

#9. Even after finally reading the evaluation done on Patrick, that is primarily in his own words,the elders encouraged families with children to interact with Patrick.



Definition of a mistake:
1 : to blunder in the choice of
2 a : to misunderstand the meaning or intention of : misinterpret b : to make a wrong judgment of the character or ability of
3 : to identify wrongly : confuse with another

If one is actively living a mistake, is it still a mistake? They did not care about what was best for our family! They did not consider the other children that will be abused by Patrick by belittling the crimes he committed in our case. They did not protect the Rojas girls.

And if these men have seen the error of their ways, what has changed? Have they talked about the abuse in their own family against their own children that was never reported? Have they gotten their own children help? Stop the silence! Live in the light! Our God is a big God, do you really think He is only found in PHFCC under these men? Why do you still attend? I am really asking!

Donate

When I posted the fact that there was a lawsuit pending against Eric and I and that I was going to hire an attorney I had someone comment that they wanted to donate money towards the lawyer. A week or so later I received a check in the mail. It was very touching and humbling that someone wanted to support our family in such a practical way.

Well today, I received another card with money enclosed from someone different, expressing their anger that we were being sued and of their desire "to want to do something to help." Again, humbled! This brought tears to my eyes. I not only felt touched from this individuals gesture of support but I also felt a spiritual support. Somehow these gestures help me feel that Eric and I aren't in this battle alone. We do have support. Practical and spiritual.

If this is a subject matter that has touched you personally or that matters to you and you want to help fight the battle against childhood sexual abuse, here are a couple of places that you can donate money to:

DARKNESS TO LIGHT

STOP THE SILENCE

Proverbs 11:24-25 "There is one who scatters, yet increases more: and there is one who withholds more than is right, but it leads to poverty. The generous soul will be made rich, and he who waters will also be watered himself."

Bad Feeling

This changed our way of life...I knew evil was out there. I guess I thought if I knew the individual REALLY well, I would know if they were safe or not. That is where I was fooling myself. I was also fooling myself by rationalizing away the "checks in my spirit" that I had in regards to Patrick. Statistically speaking, nearly all cases of child molestation are committed by a family member or close family friend.

I will never ever again try and talk away a "bad feeling" that I or one of my children might have about an individual. I ran into this just last night. One of my children has a "creepy" feeling about an individual that they interact with and wants to discontinue the interactions. I had to stop myself from down playing that child's intuition but instead support my child and allow them to act on their "gut feeling." This won't always be convenient. I do know that our emotions can sometimes stir us wrong but I would rather error on the conservative side. The safe side.

Go with your gut!

Money

This is only the beginning and I do not want money to be what stands in our way!

Eric and I really like the lawyer we hired. We believe he is very knowledgeable. Our bill so far for services rendered is $778.50. We were given a "courtesy discount" of $200.00 which left us with a total of $579.50.

I am sharing this because it is astounding to me how much a lawyer will cost our family to defend this blog. To defend truth, to help inform the public of a dangerous individual, to bring awareness, to the fact, that long term damage can take place when issues are not properly dealt with and crimes are not reported, to show how the offender isn't the only individual responsible for the crimes committed, (there are commonly one or more "good people" enabling the offender), finally, to bring the darkness into the light.

Who Would?

I have had a few people ask me, "Who would represent Patrick and Jairus in the lawsuit against us." Well, apparently Michael J. Davis from the Law Offices of Michael J. Davis in Tacoma has decided to represent the Rojas's. This is public information and can be found online. Pierce County Superior Court Case No. 10-2-10386-0.
I hope at the very least he drains their wallets.

Stay Silent

(cont. thoughts on the MLK, Jr. Quote)

Not only did these "good people" stay silent but they intimidated others--with the word of God--to stay silent. The church congregation was told that the matter at hand was between the Schneider and the Rojas families. That any individual discussing the matter was in sin for gossip. The only appropriate avenue of conversation was with your husband/dad or the elders. Not even mother to child or child to child should utter a word about what was happening. Madness! What is even crazier, is that so many intelligent individuals attending our church followed this manipulation.

The fact that Jim and Dave knew damning information that could have helped the authorities in their investigation into the crimes committed against our child but chose to keep silent is devastating to say the least! But what is more overwhelming to process and comprehend is the fact that our former pastor Eddie Rojas, his wife, Kathy, and eldest son Jairus Rojas knew that Patrick was a pedophile and had the potential to harm our child and forever alter our child's life but chose to stay silent. They had a choice. They chose silence. Unfathomable!

Now--Patrick and Jairus want ME to be SILENT...NOT A CHANCE, as long as I have a choice!!

The Good People

“We will have to repent in this generation not merely for the vitriolic words and actions of the bad people, but for the appalling silence of the good people.” Martin Luther King, Jr.

The "good people" that stayed silent in our story; Eddie and Kathy Rojas, Jairus Rojas, Jim Cameron, and Dave Barrueto.

Jairus's Actions

The more I think about Jairus's actions specifically the more dumbfounded I am. What scripture could Jairus possibly quote to justify keeping the family's dirty little secrets and putting innocent adolescent children in danger?

I haven't written much about the anonymous comment that I received regarding Jairus in the post "Anonymous". Because it was anonymous I wasn't able to verify the information in it about Jairus. But the more I think about how Jairus has supported Patrick over the years, the more I wonder if Jairus supports Patrick because Jairus can relate to Patrick and his unnatural sexual desire for children. It causes me to wonder if maybe by supporting Patrick, Jairus is also protecting his very own dirty little secret.

Child or not, sibling or not, I couldn't and wouldn't be willing to keep silent about such things. I wouldn't be willing to keep such a secret as the one Jairus was silent about especially if I saw with my own eyes the predator in action. Patrick was clearly making a move on his prey,our child. Jairus not only watched his predatory brother systematically groom our family but Jairus aided in the process.

Jairus's Culpability

Now that I am being sued by not only Patrick but his brother Jairus I figured I should share in more detail about Jairus's culpability in the abuse of my child.

To refresh your memory Jairus is the second oldest of the Rojas children. During the entire time we knew the Rojas family Jairus was an adult. Jairus himself admitted to me in a phone conversation that he knew of Patrick's previous pedophilia behavior.Jairus obviously never reported his brothers crimes to the police.

Jairus did nothing to warn my husband or myself of Patrick's potential danger to our children. Not a hint. Nothing! Jairus was very aware of how much time Patrick was spending with our family. Sometimes Jairus would even be with Patrick at our home. As a for instance Jairus and Patrick came over to my home on Jairus's 25th Birthday to do a project to "bless and serve me." Patrick purposed the idea and Jairus agreed to do the work. Other times the two of them might come over for one reason or the other and might end up eating lunch or dinner with us. Jairus was part of building the trust between ourselves and Patrick.

I squirm to this day knowing that all that time Jairus knew what Patrick was capable of but supported the facade that Patrick was to be trusted by our family. How could Jairus do that? Jairus never once pulled Eric aside to warn him. Never once suggested in front of us that Patrick shouldn't be so involved with our family. Not one word of warning!

Then when we reported Patrick, Jairus stood by his brothers side and continued to be silent. Jairus never helped the authorities in their investigation into the crimes committed against our child. Jairus still supports his brother to this day as evident in the joint lawsuit against Eric and I. The two live together. They have worked side by side. Jairus gave Patrick a portion of the 10,000 dollars needed to retain the lawyer Patrick used to defend himself against the charges in the case involving our child. For a time Jairus was an official chaperon for Patrick. I never understood that one. I highly doubt Jairus would have turned Patrick in for a parole violation based on his attitude and past behaviors. As I understand it now Jairus supports the facade that Patrick is a changed man and should be trusted.

This Matters

"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that
matter." ~ Martin Luther King, Jr.

This quote was posted by a reader of this blog on one of my previous posts. Sometimes a good quote puts into words what I am feeling or encourages me to press on. This quote does both.

Court Date

The court date for the lawsuit is set for June 2011. It will be interesting to see how this unfolds in the meantime. Eric and I are open to mediation to consider exactly what information Patrick and Jairus want removed from my blog but we are also prepared to fight this lawsuit. One stipulation to our mediation agreement is that under no circumstance do I want any face to face interaction with either Patrick or Jairus!

I am so glad I have kept detailed records of conversations and who said what and when they said it. We are in this for the long hall because we believe having this information public can assist in keeping the public from harm's way. It's that important. If only someone, like Jairus or Eddie, would have warned us of Patrick's pedophilia behaviors we most certainly wouldn't be where we are today! That I am sure of!

Justice

Justice is the concept of moral rightness based on ethics, rationality, law, natural law, religion, fairness, or equity, along with the punishment of the breach of said ethics.

Because justice has yet to be served from my point of view, I continue to post on this blog. I couldn't live with myself knowing the danger that Patrick poses towards other minor children if I were quiet about it. If I didn't do everything in my power to warn and educate others about who Patrick is, what he looks like, and his level 2 sex offender status I would feel like I was somehow culpable if Patrick sexually abuses another child. The system is set up in a way that it will take another child being sexually abused by Patrick, and then they would need to turn Patrick in, before Patrick may see some real prison time for his crimes.

Furthermore, I would like to see some sort of justice take place in regards to Eddie Rojas. Because of our family's experience I learned firsthand that it is really easy to be on the run. In cases like ours essentially law enforcement won't look for a wanted felon-the felon needs to be turned in or get pulled over for a traffic violation or something like that. It's mostly left up to chance. It seemed logical to ask the internet world to be on the lookout. Many of the actions of Eddie raise multiple red flags. There may be much more to their story that Eddie wants to hide.

I also hope that showing my reader that other people were culpable in the abuse of my child that there is value in speaking up when something isn't right. Speaking out may save an innocent child. Speaking up and dealing with childhood sexual abuse will stop the cycle. Staying silent and hoping that Patrick, "Had changed and matured," as Jairus thought, without seeking professional help or involving the authorities was really leading the naive and innocent to slaughter.

Plaintiffs

I am not sure how I missed it the day I was served but I did. Patrick isn't the only one that is suing us.

Jairus Rojas and Patrick Rojas are the Plaintiffs that have filed a law suit against us for defamation, defamation by implication,and invasion of privacy. They are claiming that my blog has caused "loss of employment and that they have suffered other financial and professional harm." Also, that our (Eric and I are the named Defendant's) action's have caused other individuals to publish embarrassing and private details about them on the world wide internet. Also, the information I have published implies untrue information about them,the information I have on this blog places them in a false light, is intensely embarrassing,is supposition and vengeful.

There you have it.

We hired a lawyer that we really like. Our response is in motion. As I can I will update you, the reader.

Today

Today we met our lawyer. We are so encouraged!

It's Official

Crack of dawn...no joke, I was served with documents from Patrick's lawyer by the sheriff department. From what I can tell I have 20 days to respond in writing.

It's official.

The lawyer made mention that he thought it was interesting that I only included one paragraph from the original letter I received from him in my last post.

What I didn't mention from his original letter, included the fact that the lawyer is suggesting we go to mediation with Patrick to clear up this matter, or that I simply remove the blog (specifically, all the embarrassing and humiliating parts about Patrick and his family) or the lawyer would suggest a lawsuit.

The lawyer also wanted to be clear by reiterating;

"This letter is not meant to minimize the terrible journey that your family and daughter have had to travel and will continue to travel as a result of Patrick's actions. I do not want in any way to minimize the effect that Patrick has had on your family. I believe that God's grace can heal all wounds no matter how deep they are.

I have a deep belief that Jesus Christ suffered the effects of all sin, sorrows, grief,and tragedy in the Garden of Gethsemane and on the Cross so that he would know how to succor us in our time of need. He will be with you and your family as you travel the path of healing. I know personally that Jesus Christ can take our burdens from us and completely heal any harm that we have suffered whether it be physical, emotional, mental,spiritual, or otherwise."

Now that you have this additional information do you like Patrick or his lawyer, Michael J. Davis (in Tacoma, WA) any better?

Reeling

I am still having a hard time processing that Patrick D. Rojas, level 2 sex offender, with at least six victims ranging from 1.5yrs old - 11yrs old, is threatening to sue me, my family, one of his victims families. And he is threatening to sue me for telling the truth!

An excerpt from the letter I received from the attorney representing Patrick:

"Some of what you have written about Patrick is not factual; it is supposition. Much of what you have written is private information that is embarrassing and humiliating in nature. Such disclosures can expose you to liability based upon Washington State law."

It's a mad, mad world!

I can't believe....

I still can not believe that the person who sexually abused my child is threatening to sue me!

Print Copies

I am checking into my legal rights for maintaining this blog as is....but in preparation of the possibility that I may actually need to remove important facts from my blog I would encourage anyone interested to print off specific posts. I have added a few specific links to some posts. Remember to print off pictures of Patrick and his family so you know who they are.

Discovery

What Eddie Knew

The Elders

Jairus Rojas

Recap

Ironic

Shout out to the Rojas boys

Eddies Resume

Eddies Location

Threat of a lawsuit

Patrick suing us?


In today's mail: If I don't remove personal information about Patrick and his family by June 4, 2010, the attorney Patrick hired will advise Patrick to take us to court for violating privacy laws.

Easter

Some victory on the road to spiritual recovery. My family went to church on Easter. It was rough getting there. We were battling some physical illness and general negativity that morning. Silently, I thought to myself that a spiritual battle was taking place. I knew we just needed to press on. We did. Honestly, I wasn't spiritually moved by my church experience but I considered the fact that I didn't even think of the Rojas family or our former church until halfway into the worship service, a victory.

It seems silly to say that being at church and actually not thinking about the Rojas family is a victory but because of all the betrayal from our spiritual leaders, their families, our church family and the way the word was twisted, it is a huge victory. We had been indoctrinated into some "almost truths." The kind of half truths that are so close to the truth that it's easy to miss that they are not really the truth at all.

Since all of this I have so many mixed emotions about church in general. For starters, is attending church even biblical? Fred knows what I mean. Anyway, that is another issue that I personally do not have the energy to debate. All I know is my understanding of what it means to be a "Christian" and to have a relationship with Christ has drastically changed since our family was victimized and betrayed from within the body of Christ. I know I do not need to attend a church to be a follower of Christ or to have a personal relationship with my Savior.

Why do I keep trying to go back? I am not really sure to tell you the truth. Not sure if I really want to or if I feel pressure from others to. I know that with very few exceptions that is what most of my Christian friends are quietly waiting for. I can't foresee ever having the love of church that I once did. I believe church will always be tarnished for me. That reality brings me to tears and to the end of this post.

Click on this link to hear this song: Your Hands by JJ Heller

Be Aware

I have unfolded our story over many posts. I realize if someone is just discovering this blog it would take hours to completely read it. There are many layers and many players involved in this part of our story. The story is real. The players are real. The injustice is real. The facade is real. The epidemic of childhood sexual abuse is real (even in the christian community.)

Things you should be aware of or know:

--> Patrick David Rojas is a level 2 sex offender. He is off probation and not monitored by anyone. Last I knew he had a sub-contractors license. Patrick lives in Port Orchard, Washington. Patrick lives with his older brother Jairus Rojas. As far as I know Jairus Rojas also has a contractors license along with a photography license. I noticed on Jairus's photography web page a number of pictures of children. Now if you would allow me to speculate somewhat, since Patrick and Jairus live together I bet Patrick has access to these photos. Does Patrick go on photo shoots with Jairus? Do the individuals that hire Jairus to take photos of their children know that Jairus has supported his convicted sex offender brother practically speaking and even to the extent of keeping his past molestations a secret? On his information page he refers to "we" but only lists him self as owner operator. I sense danger here! Someone hiring Jairus would believe they were in safe hands. Jairus professes his desire to glorify God in his photography on his web page. He looks good on paper. The clients would have no idea that danger was lurking in the background waiting for just the right scenario. Just the right child to victimize. Just the right family to groom.

--> I have been notified of the location of Eddie Rojas and he is in Israel. The community that Eddie is living in is starting to become aware of the true nature of the reasons that brought them to Israel. Legally nothing will be done to Eddie until he is state side.

--> Childhood sexual abuse of any kind should never be kept a secret! When a victim speaks out they are most likely saving someone else from being abused in the future. An adolescent child is NEVER-EVER responsible in any way for the abuse.

--> A person should always ask questions before supporting someone being accused of a crime. Call the police department and speak to the detective in charge of the case. Call the prosecutor in charge of the case. When appropriate (if you have a relationship with this person) ask the victim (victim's parents) about the crime. Don't make assumptions. Be very cautious and inquisitive before writing any kind of letter of reference for someone accused of a sexual crime. Individuals accused of these types of crimes are usually very secretive and very good at appearing to be someone other than who they truly are.

-->I know we can't go back in time and change what happened in my family. But I also know that if we kept our story a secret it would only help the offender. I have hope that sharing my story will touch someone else that may have been a victim or a mother of a victim. Our story might actually prevent someone from falling into the lure of Patrick's facade. My persistence might also uncover a greater evil in the Rojas family and help the children that are trapped in that family. Things are not always as they seem, that I know first hand!

-->We have real names and real faces to put to our story. Our story is not fiction. But remember there are thousands-literally thousands of pedophiles and sex offenders out there. Be aware! Be wise! Listen to that still small voice!

No Feedback

No feedback. I have heard nothing out of Israel since I posted the specific location of Eddie Rojas. Not really sure what to make of it. I know the leadership at the church they are attending has the facts. I know that some that attend the church know the true story about what really brought the Rojas's to Israel. I can tell from my site tracker that many people in various parts of Jerusalem are viewing my site daily. The information is reaching the community. What I find curious is the non response (no comments/ no e-mails) from anyone of those individuals.

Israel, what are you thinking? Do you not care what brought the Rojas's to Israel? Do you believe I am exaggerating? Do you believe that Eddie is doing the right/biblical thing? Is this just too much for you to deal with?

Also, the views from Missouri have jumped. (Missouri is where the Rojas family has a lot of extended family.)

Missouri, is the news of Eddie and Kathy in Israel new to you? What do you think of all of this? I know Eddie and Patrick flew to Missouri just prior to Patrick's sentencing to solicit letters of support from family members to supply to the sentencing judge. Do you still believe their version of the story? Do you still believe it was just "inappropriate affection?" A simple misunderstanding. Do you support Eddie and Kathy hiding in Israel? Are you concerned for your granddaughters/nieces? Do you see me as the enemy or the "Rojas hater" as Kathy has referred to me? What are you people thinking?

Think of the girls.

Remember to focus on the girls, the victims. People sometimes focus on the wrong part of the story and forget about what is actually happening to the girls (taken away from their friends and community and into hiding and the abuse they endured that has not been dealt with by anyone outside the family.) By Eddie protecting his son from further prosecution by hiding the girls he is not only communicating, "Nothing really big happened to you to the girls." He is ALSO putting others in harms way by allowing Patrick to live freely in society. Patrick is not properly labeled (he should be a level 3 sex offender) and he is not being monitored.

Think about that for a minute. How selfish is it to allow others to be victims of Patrick because Eddie wouldn't allow his daughters to be questioned by a very qualified, very nurturing person who is trained specifically to minimize the trauma of a child going through this process. The interview is recorded and in no way what so ever can the interviewer "lead" you into an answer. If by some mistake a child is lead into an answer that specific answer would not be accepted by the courts. The state wants kids to be innocent. There is not an agenda to get the Rojas girls into the interview room and turn them against their family. The agenda is/was simply to verify that in fact they are the victims of Patrick and hold Patrick accountable for those actions and properly label and monitor Patrick in-order to keep other innocent children safe. The state would have also made suggestions of ways the parents could get assistance in helping their girls recover from all that they had been through.

Let's not forget...If Patrick would have named his victims in the first place the state was prepared to plea bargain all the additional charges. There would have been NO need to interview the Rojas sisters. It's worth mentioning again, there must be more darkness to this story that we are not aware of. I believe the darkness extends beyond Patrick. It just doesn't make logical sense for Eddie to flee the country with his family. To live in hiding. Unless Eddie his self has something to hide. Too many unanswered questions. Think of the girls.

Until it is clear that there is nothing left to say...

I realize if you don't know me by reading my blog you may think that my life is only focused on the Rojas family. Let me assure you with six children and a husband the Rojas family and my blog only get a fraction of my attention. What Patrick did changed me. What the leadership hid still effects me but it does not define me.

I could have just let this fade away. I didn't have to start a blog. It was scary to start my blog. It was close to a years time of thinking about the blog before I made my first post. I originally thought I may post a few things and then be done with it. There have been two specific times when I thought I was done posting. I layed it down before the Lord. Each time after a time of reflection it was clear what I was to post next. I wish I didn't have so much to say. I wish this wasn't part of my life. But at the end of the day I want to be able to say, "I fought for you." "You" being my daughter, "you" being the Rojas girls, "you" being the unsuspecting family. I want to be able to say I did all I knew how to do within the restraints of my life circumstances to help "you" and to warn "you" and to bring about justice for "you."

This is my driving force. This is what keeps me going. Until it is clear that there is nothing left to say. Until Patrick and Eddie Rojas cooperate with the police in the ongoing investigation of Patrick's additional crimes I will continue to post. Until Patrick is properly labeled and monitored I will continue to warn others. Until then I will continue to share my story and what is on my heart as it pertains to this part of my life.

Eddie Rojas is in Israel. Seemed impossible until now.

Eddie Rojas is in Israel, with a standing warrant out for his arrest in the U.S.

What can be done? Really, other than notifying the community that Eddie and his family are living with, there is not much that can be done legally. Eddie is safe from prosecution while in another country for which I am sure is no surprise to Eddie. Eddie being in Israel has always seemed like the most far out possibility. I wasn't kidding when I said, "Our story seems like a poor made-for-TV movie."

Eddie,Kathy and family have been in Israel since at least May of 2008. They have been able to establish relationships and become part of the community in Jerusalem. Eddie does not have a job in Jerusalem. I know that the community in general has not been aware of the felony warrant out on Eddie here in America.

That alone shows that the cycle of secrecy has continued in the Rojas family.

I know that Kathy and Renee are helping women give birth as doulas (labor coach.) To be a part of someones birth is very intimate. I feel for these women who they have helped. Kathy was a doula for me in two of my births. Maybe you can start to see with the emotional ties plus the spiritual mentoring and family relationships how completely shocked and devastated I was to learn that Kathy had all along known of Patrick's pedophilia behaviors. Yet she still allowed and even encouraged Patrick's ever growing relationship with my family.

Man's justice cannot be gained with the knowledge of where Eddie and Kathy are, but knowledge of who Eddie and Kathy are might save another family who are in harms way.

Eddie's in Israel. What now?

Immediately after I learned of Eddie Rojas' location in Israel, I contacted the Kitsap County sheriff in charge of his case. I assumed nothing could be done to bring Eddie back to the states, but wanted to confirm that fact. After confirming, I took some time to consider the next step.

The least I could do was to make sure that the community in which the Rojas family was living was aware of the circumstances that brought them to Israel. The leaders of the church there were alerted about a week ago and now know, although they have not responded to this notification. Something about the lack of response of any kind from the leadership feels familiar. And concerning, to say the least.

It seems it's time to let the viral world do it's thing. If you know people in Jerusalem, I would strongly urge you to make sure they are aware of the Rojas story and familiar with their picture. Let them know who and what they are dealing with. Let them have a chance to guard their family and a chance to urge Eddie to return to the states, turn himself in, and cooperate with the ongoing investigation into Patrick's additional crimes.

Let other families know. Give them the information they need to empower them to choose how to respond. We never knew. We didn't have a choice.

Shout out to the Rojas Boys!

Found your dad.

About the Rojas boys that are still here in Port Orchard, Washington:

I know that Jairus and Patrick have recently tried to attend a church in Port Orchard and they discovered they were not welcomed. Another pastor actually confronted Patrick about his lack of repentance. I hear Patrick considers his minor charges and jail time a "blessing from God." So, Patrick, you lie, you won't cooperate with the police, you hire an attorney to hide behind and in your twisted mind you consider the outcome a "blessing from God?" WOW!

This leads into the next question. Patrick, Jairus, why aren't you attending Peninsula Household of Faith Community Church under Jim Cameron and Dave Barrueto? These families support you. These men lied and mislead others for you. Why are you trying to attend other churches? Are you trying to attend a different church so you have a place where you can freely groom another victim? Or do these families from PHFCC just want to support you as long as it's not around their children?

A note to the rest of you: If you attend church in the Kitsap/Peninsula area, you need to get to know what these guys look like, so you can protect your family.

Eddie's location!

Church of All Nations
Narkis Street Congregation's Chapel in Jerusalem.



Eddie and Kathy and their family are attending this church and live in this community.

It is hard to believe that Eddie and Kathy along with at least 10 of their children were able to make it into Israel. But you must remember the felony warrant was not issued immediately. The state had to prove that Eddie was in fact eluding their attempts to bring in the girls to be interviewed. It is also hard to believe that they would be able to pay for that many airplane tickets. Again, you must remember we discovered early on that Eddie had sold his 15 passenger van along with knowing that Jairus had thousands of dollars in savings.

What to do next? Inform their community seems to be what would be the right thing to do.

Information has been sent to the leaders of this congregation in hopes that they will hold Eddie accountable as his spiritual leaders. I know of three different sources that have contacted the leadership and as of writing this post the silence of the leadership is deafening. Here is the link to the church:

http://www.narkis.org/default.htm

You can't just look at a child and know if they have been sexually abused!

The child still plays, laughs, gets into trouble just like any other child around them. Many children detach themselves from what is happening to them in secret. It might be many years down the road before the child victim starts to realize what has actually been done to them. Most children have no context to attach to the sexual abuse. In their heart it feels wrong. The child usually knows something isn't right about what is happening to them. But there is this person that they love and trust and usually has some form of control over them through their relationship.

Another rarely talked about aspect of childhood sexual abuse is the fact that many times the sexual stimulation feels good to the child. Very confusing to have the "feels bad in the heart" but "feels good physically" conflicting emotions. That is where shame often attacks the child victim. Those conflicting emotions often play a part in the child keeping the sexual abuse a secret. I hate that the completely innocent child victim silently suffers with guilt and shame all too often. The guilt and shame is completely misplaced. No guilt! No shame! should ever be placed upon a child victim.

Often it is not until the adult survivor gets married or has their first child that they may begin to have flashbacks of their abuse, physical problems, sexual issues, or any of the other common consequences associated with childhood sexual abuse when it isn't properly faced and recovered from.

You can't just look at a child and know if they have been sexually abused. You can't just look at a child and know if they have healed fully from the trauma of childhood sexual abuse. The wounds are usually deep within their soul.

Eddie's heart is not what he leads others to believe.

I know that I make some bold statements.

"In my opinion, the girls in that family have been brainwashed by their domineering, felon father." from my post, "Please help the Rojas girls."

If you are just meeting the Rojas family you may consider my opinions over the top. If I would not have lived this myself, I would have agreed. Let me just say that my comments are born out of years of having a very close mentoring relationship with Kathy Rojas herself. My statements are made from the actual actions of Eddie himself during the whole investigation and court process. On many occasions Eddie omitted information (lying by omission), directly lied, or mislead (lied.) While all of this was happening simultaneously pastoring a church and living daily life as if "nothing serious" really happened. And appearing to be a very godly man that was trusting the Lord.

During our entire nightmare not once has Eddie responded in a given situation the way I would have expected him to. He preached accountability. He preached trusting in the Lord our God. He preached integrity. Not in my wildest dreams would I have speculated Eddie taking his family into hiding to protect his pedophile son. No way! Eddie's heart is not what he leads others to believe.

Please help the Rojas girls.

I haven't focused much on my concern for the Rojas girls so far. This post will focus on that.

I have focused so much information on Eddie because the felony warrant is for him. I have also wanted as much information out there on Patrick Rojas simply because he is out in the community without any appropriate accountability. Patrick’s accountability with his brother, Jairus, has already proven to amount to be no more than a joke. The elders of our former church have already proved their disregard for our legal system, just as they have proved their acceptance of pedophile behavior.

I am exceedingly nervous about Patrick grooming another family and victimizing another child. It is a pedophilia’s job to gain trust and look for an opportunity to safely victimize. Most pedophiles are exceptionally patience. Part of what empowers someone like Patrick Rojas is the grooming process. He's good at it. He appears trustworthy. This is how he operated with us, even as he schemed to victimize.

One of my three reasons for continuing with this blog and asking others to pass these posts to all of their contacts is because of the Rojas girls. In my opinion, the girls in that family have been brainwashed by their domineering, felon father. For that matter, I believe all the children under Eddie have a very twisted, very unbiblical view of what is right and pure and Godly.

These additional victims of Patrick's need professional help. Have you dared to really look at the details and the extent in which they were victimized by their brother? God can heal their heart. God can help them forgive. God can redeem what was stolen from them. But think, for a moment, how difficult it will be for them to begin healing while they are living on the run from the law with their father, who has chosen time and time again to put his own safety above their own. Their father has chosen to keep them from help in order to protect their pedophilic brother.

It is my understanding that Eddie is of the mindset that the only “help” the girls need should come from their relationship with God and Eddie himself. I believe that God uses others in our healing process. I believe the healing process for childhood sexual abuse goes beyond the supernatural. From my own personal story, along with many other survivors of childhood sexual abuse, one resounding thing I hear is the long-term struggle to put the abuse behind them. In one way or the other, there are consequences of abuse. Eating disorders, cutting, drugs and alcohol abuse along with sexual issues as adults are all linked directly to victims of childhood sexual abuse who never told, never sought out qualified profession help to deal with all the complex emotions that are a result of being a child victim in particular. In the worst cases, they never were believed. Their abuse was minimized or ignored.

If you know where Eddie is hiding, please turn him in, if for no other reason than do it for the girls. With everything you have read on my blog, with the fact that Eddie took the girls on the run to protect Patrick, his pedophilia son, do you believe that Eddie has the best interest of his victimized girls in mind? It seems to me that Eddie does not want to face the gravity of the consequences of the crimes that were committed against his own daughters? Is Eddie in denial? Is Eddie also a perpetrator?

Imagine if your own daughters were at risk. Please help, before it is too late for these innocent young women.

Shake! Shake! Shake!

Shake! Shake! Shake! This is me shaking you! If you know where Eddie and Kathy are hiding and keeping it secret, please stop right now and consider what you are doing. You are protecting a known felon. You may be breaking the law, simply by helping protect a criminal. And you may be continuing to put innocent girls at further risk of sexual abuse. Is this what you want for your legacy? Is this what you want on your conscience?

I wish all I had to do was ask that question and the veil would be removed from your eyes. I'm not quite sure what formulation of thought or specific scripture God will use to open your eyes, so that is one reason I keep communicating basically the same thing from different angles. I like very much that Brian from Brian's Bits (as of 3/11/10 Brian has removed his articles.) He has such a different approach than I do in his writing style and content, but again the message is the same:

Eddie Rojas must step into the light and face the charges before him.

The Rojas girls need to be professionally helped by someone the family trusts.

Patrick Rojas needs to spare his sisters and his other victims by contacting the prosecutor on his case, Kelly Montgomery, and by naming his additional victims. He needs to accept his due consequences.

The adult Rojas children need to stop helping their father in his sin. I particularly hold the two adult sons, Jairus and Benjamin, responsible for this. They are adults. They are old enough to know better. They are no longer under Eddie's thumb.

The Rojas family needs to put their trust in Gods' hands. They need to allow true justice to happen.

Mind-set of the individuals who aid and abet Eddie and Kathy on the run.

Eddie has really played up the fear of the humanistic government taking away his children to gain and sustain support. There is a huge sub-culture of Christians who have a real fear that our government is specifically out to get them simply because of their Christian faith. The Rojas's have insinuated that because of their Christian beliefs and practices the state would take their girls and destroy their family. This sub-set of Christians that help them, buy that hook-line and sinker, because the Rojas's seem so "Godly." Do these people even take one moment to consider further that maybe just maybe there is a felony warrant out on Eddie Rojas because he actually committed a real crime?

Don't the Rojas' look so normal?

I finally have some photos that Jairus has no claim to. I have the permission of the owner of the photos to post them on my blog.

Don't the Rojas' look so normal? That's the point! Wherever they are I am sure they are putting on a "happy" face. The photos are from quite awhile ago but as of 2007 both Eddie and Kathy pretty much looked like these photos. Maybe you could add a few pounds, a beard/mustache, and on occasion glasses when your looking for Eddie.

If you have any photos of Eddie or Kathy that were taken after 2001 that you personally took and are willing to allow me to post, please e-mail them to me.

totallycracker@nventure.com

Oh by the way...According to Patrick's sexual psychological evaluation, at the time of these photos Eddie and Kathy both knew of at least two pedophilia incidents between Patrick and his own sisters. Eddie never notified the police. Eddie did not get qualified outside help for his little girls. Eddie kept Patrick's sexual crimes a secret.

Why does Jairus care if I have a few pictures up?

Okay, here's the thing. Jairus Rojas keeps making complaints to blogger.com about some of the photographs that I have put on this blog. Why? The only picture that hasn't been taken down is the one of Patrick off of the sex offenders web site. The majority of the photos that I have posted have been of Eddie, Kathy, and Patrick Rojas. Most recently the picture of Eddie Rojas taken from his Facebook profile page was removed. Even though the pictures have been removed from my blog, I do have a link available (top right hand side) that will allow you to view Eddie Rojas with his entire family.

Jairus may be in Port Orchard, Washington palling around with his sexual deviant, unrepentant brother, Patrick, but he is working hard to help his father, Eddie, stay under the radar as well. Remember that there is a felony warrant out for Eddie's arrest. Do Jairus and Patrick send Eddie money to help support the family while they are in hiding? Why does Jairus care if I have a few pictures up? Keep looking, people.

Eddie and Kathy are out there somewhere with 10 children. It's time for Eddie to be turned in. It's time for the additional victims of Patrick to start their healing process. It's time for this blog to reach the right people.

A felony warrant does not expire. I still have hope.