End Game For Italy

Two individuals have told me that one goal for being in Italy is to establish Italian citizenship. If Kathy can prove that a grandparent was from Italy, than Kathy can be granted citizenship. I am told that her citizenship would extend to her family members. This would give Eddie the ability to find a job in that country. They would no longer need to rely on others. This would also relieve them from the need to continually move around because they would have permanent residency. No need to return to the US. I believe this is the end game for Italy.

Still Hurting, Struggling and Battling

I don't have much if any contact with the other families that fellowshipped at PHOF during the time when everything happened to our family. I have talked in previous posts about the different times I drew a line and cut off contact with families that stayed on the other side of the line. Since that time some families have "seen the light" so to speak and regret some of their choices. I have also posted about my understanding of their heart change but that for me it is a little too little a little too late, in the context of restoring of the relationship. But Forgiveness, I can do.

Recently, I have come to know about some of the struggles that other families are continuing to deal with because of the crimes that Patrick committed and the choices that Eddie and Kathy and the church leadership made in relation to our case. I have known that we weren't the only "victims" although we were the center of the crimes and betrayals.

In a strange way it helps me to know that myself and individuals in my family are not the only ones still daily if not weekly dealing with the emotional fall out of all the harm that was done. Sometimes when I look at what I am dealing with in relation to the time that has passed, I do wonder if in someway I am hindering my own healing process. Especially when I get some of the Rojas supporter comments. I don't know why I allow their comments to affect me. Or others who wish I could just "move on."

I am not glad that others are still hurting, struggling and battling within but it does help put into perspective my own lingering struggles that are directly related. I wonder if Patrick, Jairus, Eddie and Kathy along with Jim and Dave really grasp all the lives they damaged. This could have played out so differently. There were numerous opportunities to do the right thing starting when Patrick was 15 years old. My heart is heavy with all the pain they caused others along their paths. All the more reason my blog needs to stay in tact. Names and all!

Ironic

Benjamin Rojas

“I am sorry to think that you do not get a man's most effective criticism until you provoke him. Severe truth is expressed with some bitterness.”~Henry David Thoreau

When I heard that Benjamin P. Rojas (DOB 9/02/86) was working for TeenPact in their National Offices (Richmond, VA) as the registration manager all I could do was shake my head. I remember thinking how ironic.

TeenPact is an organization that teaches young adults about government and their christian responsibility in voting and making a difference for the future. To be fair to Benjamin, I have been told by a third party that Benjamin purposefully did not want to know what was happening with Patrick, this particular conversation took place prior to finding out all the information in the sexual psycho evaluation. During the criminal investigation against Patrick and his court proceedings Benjamin lived in his families home. During all the years Patrick was sexually molesting "relatives" Benjamin lived in the family home. Remember Patrick was confronted on two different occasions about sexual abuse by his father and disciplined. Where was Benjamin? This family has always lived in tight quarters. I do not buy what Benjamin is selling! After Patrick was first sentenced, Benjamin was a named chaperon for Patrick. Benjamin lived with Patrick for a time just prior to accepting a job with TeenPact. Benjamin has intentionally and purposefully supported his brother while stating that he (Benjamin) didn't know what Patrick had done or what his father (Eddie Rojas) was planning to do or where he is in hiding.

Now come on....where was Benjamin when The Rojas's were packing up most of their belongings to go into hiding? What was Benjamin thinking when his parents and siblings were moving from house to house to avoid CPS and the sheriffs that were coming to the family home and leaving messages on the family answering machine? At this time Benjamin was 20yrs old. He did not need to blindly follow his father. He could have asked questions of the prosecutor and sheriff department to decide if it was appropriate to help his family go into hiding. I think Benjamin can say he doesn't know where his father is because he "technically" probably doesn't know. But I am convinced Benjamin most certainly has a good idea where they are in hiding! I do know that he communicates with his father and family. I have been told that Benjamin has met with his father and some of the family during the time the family has been in hiding.

Do you see the irony in Benjamin having a paid staff position with the TeenPact organization?