Is it worth it?
Was there really any other choice?
I know in theory we have a choice in everything. Some things, from my point of view, really don't leave any alternatives, or at least the alternative is not something I am willing to live with.
Nothing in all the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity.~Martin Luther King Jr.
I'd like to explore the: What if we didn't call the police, question?
If you have read my previous posts and can assume some of the actions of the pastor (the predator's father) and elders stayed the same, than I come to some logical conclusions. It is logical to conclude we would have never known that our child was sexually molested beyond "a few kisses," and that our family would have been counseled by the elders that true forgiveness meant fellowshipping again with Patrick (the abuser,) the "relatives" that Patrick had sexually abused would still be vulnerable of being his victims again, Patrick would be able to pursue a career in any field (including working with children,) Patrick would certainly add more victims to his resume, and our child would not have received the proper help and would be a continuous victim (literally and/or emotionally).
I know some adults do not report the crime of childhood sexual abuse. There are a variety of reasons why an adult would choose not to report such a heinous crime. I submit to you, if you do not report a crime of sexual abuse against a child you are also an abuser of the child. You are the trusted adult that is suppose to protect the child. You should get the child help. I believe also that if you do not report a sexual predator....you are actively playing a part in any future crimes that the predator commits!!
I want you to think about this: If Eddie would have educated himself on pedophilia the first time he discovered that Patrick had sexually abused one of his "nameless relatives" at age 15, (which according to Patrick's evaluation was his first victim.) Assuming with the knowledge of the danger Patrick posed, as part of being a responsible adult and parent, Eddie would have sought out the proper help for the "nameless relative" and reported Patrick and properly protected others from Patrick. Then five children could have been spared the trauma and devastation of being sexually molested!
Instead, Eddie and Kathy Rojas chose to stay purposefully ignorant at the expense of innocent children (some I believe to be their own.)
I do not want to in any way be part of hiding or keeping secret any information that might possibly help protect children from being victimized by Patrick (or anyone else involved in hiding his crimes or hiding that he is a predator.) Also, I hope that if nothing else, this brings awareness to parents and anyone that is responsible for children, assuming the statistics are correct, and 1 in 5 boys are sexually molested and 1 in 3 girls are sexually molested before the age of 18, this is an epidemic! Flushing these predators out into the light, by demanding tougher laws with real prison sentences for sexually motivated crimes against children, and by educating ourselves on the issue of childhood sexual abuse www.darkness2light.org/ we will start to turn around this epidemic.
The change starts with you and with me! Are you willing to be an advocate for children? Are you willing to call and e-mail your State representatives? Are you willing to forward this blog to your contacts?
All that our family has suffered and endured, because we reported the sexual abuse of our child and put a spotlight on Patrick Rojas and the Rojas family, is worth knowing that we have done everything in our power to protect potential future victims from Patrick. We have made sure that our child knew that they were believed, innocent of wrong doing, and that they received proper help to deal with the physical and emotional trauma that sexual molestation can cause. Our child knows that their parents will stand up and protect them.
Is it worth reporting the crime of childhood sexual abuse?
A resounding YES, One Thousand Yeses!!
How could we not?
How could you not?