If someone asks him, ‘What are these wounds on your body?’ he will answer, ‘The wounds I was given at the house of my friends.’ Zech 13 v 6

Wednesday, March 14, 2012

Robbed of Innocence

Back to our story...

One of the things that was robbed from my child was learning about the beauty of sexual intimacy in the way God intended. I hadn't even talked with the child that was molested about sexual intimacy or puberty in any detail, yet. This child was so naive to that dimension of life.

My first discussions with this child about sexual intimacy was about a sexual deviant. I had to talk with this child about twisted individuals who do terrible things to children to fulfill disgusting desires. I needed to explain something to the child that they had no frame of reference for. Their first introduction to sexual intimacy was one of darkness.

Nothing can give back the innocence that was stolen by Patrick Rojas. Frankly, his parents, Eddie and Kathy Rojas along with Jairus are also responsible.

Of course I assured my child that they were not responsible in anyway for what had happened. That in no way was this child part of the darkness. Because of the lack of initial understanding this child is highly likely to have a point in their young adulthood of needing to process with a greater understanding what was done to them.

This is only one of the reasons our family can't "just move on" like some people seem to feel we should do. We do move on and then have to deal with something that is directly related and it throws us back, then we need to adjust, deal with whatever and try again to live life........ Denial doesn't change this process, either.

1 comment:

sherie said...

"We do move on and then have to deal with something that is directly related and it throws us back"

I totally agree. The ripples never end. It seems that as soon as I don't think about our situation for maybe several weeks (at most) something or someone, directly affected, crosses my path and causes me to be sucked back into more heartbreak - the ripples go on and on. I get what you are saying. So what is really happening? Are we supposed to do something? say something? Will we ever really be able to let it go?.....You are such a brave women - you are taking action, making a difference, speaking out....I really admire you and appreciate our friendship. Love and Prayers