There are different stages that someone usually goes through in order to process what has happened to them. The stages are important for true healing. Because of the age of the victim and the complete inability to put any context to what actually happened to them, the stages will likely have big gaps between them. Immediately following the discovery of the crimes, the child was fearful of losing all friends and the fellowship with the church. This is exactly what happened, because of the way the elders handled everything. It didn't have to be that way.
The future is what makes me a little nervous and is the reason why we choose to handle everything in the different ways that we have. We really want to minimize any lasting effects childhood sexual abuse can have on our child.
A counselor will tell you that there are typical trigger points in a survivor's life. For this child, it will likely be when they reach an age where they have true romantic feelings for someone of the opposite sex, when this child gets married, and when this child has their first daughter. The issues at these times could be minor or there could be traumatic memories or strong emotions. Only time will tell. Of course, we pray that the effects will be minimal to nothing, but the reality is that our child will be dealing with this for the rest of their lives. That is where my anger comes from.