I received the above e-mail (6/22/09) from the mother in response to the letter I wrote her (Unbelievable post). I have considered her request and although I understand what she is asking me to do, I just can't honor her request. I am sure as the mother of a registered sex offender, I wouldn't want people to know about my son. I can see from the two families I know of that they just want to leave it behind them and move on.
I am a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and a mother of a survivor. I can in no way be a part of hiding the name of a criminally-convicted registered sex offender, juvenile or not. The fact that her son is a juvenile and that they want to keep his identity secret makes the scenario even more similar to ours. Remember, Patrick was caught at age 15 and then again at 17. His parents kept it secret because they felt it was behind them. Our child was a later victim--one that could have been avoided.